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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
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Recent Posts
Why SAFETY Is My Word of the Year for 2026
Safety is the precursor to everything that helps us thrive. Often as the year changes I spend some time between Christmas and New Year's in contemplation and listening, trying to discern what's important to concentrate on in the year ahead. You've all likely seen the...
PODCAST: Evangelicals Shouldn’t Be Embarrassing: The Oklahoma Student’s Essay and How Our Faith Has Changed
We're coming full circle for the last podcast of 2025! We started this "season" (I never know how to count the seasons really!) since we came back from summer break talking about right wing authoritarianism, and how it overlaps almost completely with religious...
Why People in Power Often Miss Jesus
The Christmas story brings peace to me when people refuse to hear the truth. It's my last post of 2025, and I've been a little quieter lately, having some time to think and process. And as I've shared at Christmas over the last few years, one of the things that has...
Let’s Not Overspiritualize Our Problems! (A Christmas Reflection)
What if sin isn't the cause of all the bad or counterproductive things we do? And what if blaming it on sin does harm? I wrote this reflection two years ago, and was revisiting it recently and realized it fit in so well with Christmas! Keith and I will talk about...
PODCAST: Incels vs. Pastors–“We Respond to Crazy Pastor Clips” Pallooza!
Let's take on some common horrid evangelical talking points! I thought, as we're getting to the end of the year, that Keith and I could spend a podcast just reacting to some of the common things we hear pastors say from the pulpit, or influencers say online. Often you...
Many Evangelicals Resemble Generic Fundamentalists More than Jesus Followers
Modern evangelicals are often closet fundamentalists. They may wear hip clothing, and they may try to sound "cool", but they often look far more like fundamentalists than they do like Jesus. This week on the Bare Marriage podcast (dropping tomorrow), Keith and I are...
What If the Church Emphasized Emotional Wholeness Rather Than Marriage?
Scripture does not say that our goal in life is to be married. If anything, 1 Corinthians 7 says the opposite, that people should remain single if they can. Marriage is nowhere mentioned as the main reason that God created us, and is certainly not mentioned as a...
PODCAST: What does the Plight of Missionary Kids Teach Us about The Church?
We need to listen to the stories of missionary kids. Holly Berkley Fletcher released an amazing book called Missionary Kids that I read all in one sitting. I was riveted. Holly grew up as a missionary kid. And she interviewed a whole bunch of missionary kids, some...
Why Do Women Often Create the Most Toxic Content?
Why is it that the worst messages are often shared by women? Why is it that it’s often social media accounts run by women, and books written by women, which are the most adamant about preaching obligation sex, women’s unilateral submission, women having subordinate...