Welcome to our new website!
It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years!
As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
What Difference Have We Made This Year?
We're hear to change the conversation about sex and marriage in the evangelical church. And in the wider church too! We want to make it something healthy, evidence-based, and biblical (by which we mean Jesus-centered). And sometimes it's good to pause and ask, "are we...
Eve in Exile by Rebekah Merkle: The Onesheets Spread!
Doug Wilson's daughter Rebekah Merkle peddles patriarchy in Eve in Exile And not just patriarchy, but downright misogyny.I haven't taken a look at her books yet, because we have a system for choosing which books we look at based on Amazon sales rankings, and we...
PODCAST: The Problems with His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley
Let's talk about His Needs, Her Needs! Today, for episode 284, we're joined by Bethany Jantzi and Ngina Otiende, who took one for the team and read Willard Harley's book His Needs, Her Needs. Interestingly, he's updated it a LOT since the Great Sex Rescue was...
The Problems with the Book His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley
Let's look at His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley But first... One of the things we’re passionate about on this blog is making sure the self-help and relationship advice in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed 40,000...
A Postmortem on the Damage a Marriage Book Can Do
How do Christian marriage books harm? We talk a lot at Bare Marriage about how Christian marriage books can harm people, often by teaching toxic things about staying in abusive marriages, giving sex on demand, or perpetuating teachings that we know are correlated with...
PODCAST: Did the Church Steal Your Sex Life? What If Church Isn’t Safe feat. Andrew Bauman
Is the Evangelical Church a Safe Place for Women? Today we're joined by Dr. Andrew Bauman, with his new book Safe Church, based on his research into women's experiences in church. He shares with us why so many women have been harmed in evangelicalism, from things like...
10 Differences Between a Roles-Based Marriage and a Partnership-Based Marriage
What if marriage could actually be a partnership? So much of Christian marriage literature is centered around the strange idea that God ordained wives to fulfill one role in the relationship (submission and housework), while men were created to fill another...
Lying for Jesus: When Did Truth Become UnChristian?
Have evangelicals abandoned truth? I've been on several dustups on Instagram lately about the same issue. Popular trad wife influencers are creating reels using the false stat that when dads come to Christ first, in 93% of cases the families follow, compared with...
Why Do Men Cheat? New Research Spotlight!
Let's look at some interesting new research studies on infidelity and more! Every now and then we like to do a research spotlight podcast where we pull a bunch of new studies and see what they say about the things that we talk about all the time here at Bare Marriage....