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It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years!
As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
PODCAST: How Your Story Affects Your Choices with Natalie Hoffman
Understanding our stories helps us understand our choices--and make different ones in the future. The last book I read in 2023 was an advanced copy of Natalie Hoffman's new memoir, All the Scary Little Gods. It's absolutely devastating and lovely and completely quirky...
3 Ways Your Spouse Should Pass the Roommate Test
We love to say that spouses aren’t just roommates And they’re definitely not! Roommates share a living space, and little else. Spouses are supposed to share everything. But at the same time, there are some basic things that go into the roommate experience that may...
What If Sex Is Like Going out to Dinner?
This week The Good Guy’s Guide and Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex Turn 2! Two years ago, these two books launched. I wrote the original Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex in 2012, and Zondervan contracted with Keith and me to write a companion guy’s version, to come out...
When Unequal = Equal: How Complementarianism changes the Meaning of Words
Separate but equal has been tried and failed. So why is the church still using the same arguments about gender? It's International Women's Day, and I thought I'd sum up some of what we said in a podcast yesterday, combined with some great input you all gave me on...
PODCAST: Are We Creating a Strawman out of Complementarianism?
Who is really a complementarian? Just when we think we're finished arguing something, another critique pops up. And honestly--we had SUCH FUN doing this podcast! Keith and I planned it for several days beforehand, going over all the arguments we wanted to use. But it...
The 72-Hour Rule Isn’t a Thing: How Evangelicals Coerced Women into Sex Every 72 Hours
The 72 Hour Rule is Made Up by Evangelical Authors. Yep. This month on the blog we're "fact checking" common sex beliefs, and one of the biggest ones in evangelical circles is the 72 hour rule: the idea that a wife must have sex with her husband every 72 hours,...
FACT CHECKED IT: Are Blue Balls Real?
Is there really such a thing as “blue balls”? This month I want to start a new series on the blog called “Fact Checked it For You”, where we look up some of the most common outrageous claims made about sex, and see if they actually stand up to scrutiny. We’ll be...
Welcoming a New Member of the Family!
My baby had a baby! As some of you may know, I have two daughters. One is quite visible on the blog and podcast--Rebecca, my oldest. She's co-authored both The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better with me, and we talk frequently about her two little ones. Katie's...
PODCAST: What We’ve Learned Now That Great Sex Rescue Turns 3!
A lot has surprised us in the three years since Great Sex Rescue was published! Today on the Bare Marriage podcast the three authors--Joanna Sawatsky, Rebecca Lindenbach, and me--all discuss what has surprised us and what we've seen since The Great Sex Rescue was...