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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
PODCAST: The Rise of Lonely Men–Plus How to Be Inspiring
We've got some wonderful inspiring stories to share with you today--plus a new research study with implications for dating. This month on the podcast I've been talking about women heroes you should know--we talked about biographies of Josephine Butler and Katharine...
8 Reasons to Go To Bed Before You’re Tired
What if there's something super simple you could do that could improve your mood and your marriage? I talked on Monday about rhythms in our lives--how to honor our bodies' rhythms, with the need for work and rest; for feasting and fasting. And I thought today we could...
Can We Honor Our Bodies’ Rhythms? And Why that May Mean Saying No to Sex Sometimes
God created life with natural rhythms. But I feel like much of the effort of modern life is to obliterate those rhythms. Two things got me thinking about this lately, and I'd like to tell you about them and then explore this further. Exhibit A: I had COVID....
Psychology Today Says Women Are Getting Higher Standards–and Men Are Left Lonely
What if men are finding it hard to find a mate because women are getting higher standards? That's the claim in a new article in Psychology Today that's going crazy on social media right now: And I checked out the references the post uses, and they appear to hold up! A...
PODCAST: Meet Katharine Bushnell, Another Hero You Need–Plus Fixing Sexist Bible Translations
Time for another hero of the faith! Well, three, actually! This month we're telling amazing stories of women that God used in history to fight against injustice and show that God values women. Last week we looked at a biography of Josephine Butler, and this week...
A Letter to the Woman with a Controlling Husband
Are you married to a controlling husband? I first ran this post back in 2016, but as we're moving over to our new domain next week, and taking only the posts from 2018 and forward, I wanted to make sure this one came with us! I refer to it a lot. If you're in...
2 Things Pastors Should Never Say
I do not believe that pastors need to be perfect. I absolutely believe that all of us are works in progress, and that we will always have areas where we need to grow. And I think it's a good idea, in general, for pastors to admit when they're still growing or where...
Stop Making Women Powerless in the Name of God
My heart hurts when I hear stories of what happens when women (or children or men, for that matter) are made powerless. In about a week or so we'll be moving the blog over to a new domain, taking only the posts from 2018 with us. I have some posts from pre-2018...
If Supporting Mark Driscoll Doesn’t Disqualify Someone from Leadership, What Does?
We need shepherds to act like shepherds--and caring for sheep means not supporting someone who preyed on sheep. Caring for the sheep means not supporting someone like Mark Driscoll, whose spiritual abuse caused Mars Hill in Seattle, the denomination he created, to...