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As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
PODCAST: Can My Vagina Have a Brain? Let’s Talk Mind-Body Connection!
Let's jump in with our embodiment series on the blog--and the podcast! This month we're going to be talking about embodiment, leading up to Christmas. Our bodies are important. Jesus took on human form to live among us. He resurrected bodily, as will we. He showed in...
Arousal Non-Concordance: You Really Need to Know What it Is
I'd like to begin a longer, ongoing conversation today about arousal non-concordance. To begin, a quick story. As a teen I always won the game Balderdash. Remember that game? You get a bizarre weird word, and everyone has to make up a definition for it, and then you...
Who Believed the Obligation Sex Message More in Your Marriage?
The "Obligation Sex Message" is toxic. The idea that a woman is obligated to have sex with her husband when he wants it was the most toxic belief that we measured in our survey of 20,000 women for The Great Sex Rescue--and our survey of men. On Tuesdays I don't write...
You Matter: Is the Pendulum Swinging Too Hard Towards Women?
As we're wrapping up the sexual confidence series today, I've been thinking about what the main message is that I want people to take away. For the last two months we've been talking about sexual confidence--what it is; what it's not; how to feel confident if you're...
The “Sexual Favors” Postpartum Podcast: Can We Please Stop Being Selfish?
Rebecca's postpartum! So we thought it was the perfect time to look at the postpartum advice given in evangelical circles to women. We found in our survey that sex lives can start to go off course with the way that sex is handled postpartum. Many people don't recover...
The Seats for Tea and Tent Pegs Are Going Fast!
The webinar with Kristin Kobes Du Mez, Beth Allison Barr and me is going to be awesome! We have 3000 seats available, but 2000 are already gone. So grab your seat now! On December 6 at 9 pm EST (sorry for all of you in Europe!), the three of us are sitting down with...
Do Women Consider Giving Sexual Favors Postpartum Arousing?
How do you feel about advice that tells postpartum women to care for their husbands' sexual needs? I don't write big posts on Tuesdays anymore, but consider this one a prelude to Thursday's podcast (yes, we're releasing one on Thanksgiving because it isn't...
What We Don’t Know about the Clitoris (And Other Parts of Women’s Sexuality)
Did you know that it's only recently that medical textbooks have started getting the clitoris right? For years, the clitoris was shown as smaller than it actually is, and often the nerves and rooots were omitted. The penis, on the other hand, tended to be shown in...
Tea and Tent Pegs, “All Men Struggle with Lust”, and More!
This week has been taken up by two things: talking about the problems with the "all men struggle with lust" message, and telling you all about our Tea and Tent Pegs event! It's time for another edition fo my Friday Round-Up, where I cover what's been going on on my...