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10 Ways Men Can Initiate Sex with Their Wives (Without pressuring her)
How do you initiate sex with your wife without turning her off? We've been working through an obligation sex series for the last few weeks, and one of the big things I've been stressing is that making your spouse feel like they are obligated to have sex has disastrous...
Sex Is Important in Marriage
Sex matters in marriage. When sex is mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, sex makes you feel connected. It minimizes minor tensions and makes you laugh. It helps you sleep and makes you feel more relaxed. And it contributes significantly to marital...
How Purity Culture Can Affect Overweight Teen Girls
Today I want to talk about another aspect of purity culture: Its affect on overweight girls. I received an Instagram message recently from a woman telling her story, and it was so interesting I thought it deserved its own post so we could think about it and talk about...
Podcast: Can the Enneagram Help Your Marriage? feat. Christa Hardin
What does the Enneagram have to say about your marriage? I'm a total personality test geek. My mom spent a lot of her career utilizing different personality tools in her business consulting role going in to talk about corporate change, and she was really big on the...
3 Point Difference Between Hurt and Harm
Can you feel hurt without actually being harmed? And is there a difference between hurt and harm? This is a conversation that we’ve been having in our Patreon facebook group (exclusive for our Patreon supporters; you can join for as little as $5 a month!), and I...
How Fighting Toxic Marriage Teachings Can Help Fight Church Abuse
We see fighting toxic marriage teachings as part of a broader mission in the church. For the last four and a half years, our team at Bare Marriage has pursued wholeheartedly a difficult and overwhelming task: Challenging the toxic messages in our evangelical...
How Becoming Egalitarian Changed One Couple’s Marriage
What happens to marriage when a couple becomes egalitarian? On our October 5th Bare Marriage podcast episode (episode 208), I had a fascinating conversation with pastor Terran Williams and learned about how he changed his mind on complementarianism. He was working at...
PODCAST: Why Don’t Evangelical Sex Teachers Know What They Don’t Know?
Has modern Christianity become an echo chamber? And is that leading us to have super bad takes on many issues that are really important? Today we're taking a look at a theme that we've noticed in evangelicalism: anti-intellectualism, and a denial of science and...
How Emotional Abuse is Physical Abuse
Sheila here! October is Domestic Abuse Awareness Month, and last week I saw an amazing post by Emily at Thriving Forward, who was a guest on the Bare Marriage podcast a while ago talking about growing up under Gothard, and being part of the lawsuit against him. One...
What if Recovery from Obligation Sex Seems Impossible?
Obligation sex can wreak havoc on us. For last month we’ve been doing a deep dive into obligation sex, looking at the main problems with obligation sex, how it affects women’s bodies, why you don’t need to consent to being used, and more. But as we’re nearing the end...