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Are the WRONG People Getting the RIGHT Marriage Advice?
I’ve spent years trying to untangle the Christian marriage advice puzzle. When we started researching the best-selling marriage books when we were writing The Great Sex Rescue, we found, to our dismay, that the majority of them ended up giving really bad advice, that...
PODCAST: Is Caling Acts of Service a Love Language Missing Something HUGE? New Bonus Stats!
Is it a "love language" to do basic chores? When we wrote The Great Sex Rescue, one of the things that really bothered us was that evangelical marriage authors talked a ton about increasing the frequency of sex without ever mentioning the orgasm gap or sexual pain...
Is the “Acts of Service” Love Language Really a Cry for Help?
Is "Acts of Service" a real love language? Many of you may be familiar with the runaway best-seller by Gary Chapman The Five Love Languages, which argues that there are five different love languages, and we all have a preferred one: Acts of Service Gifts Words of...
Why Are Men Scared to Submit? Super Quick Rundown on Ephesians 5
Ephesians 5 calls husbands to submit too. But whenever we talk about men submitting, so many men take offense to that! I wrote up this super quick overview of Ephesians 5 on social media last week, and it went so big that I thought I'd post it here, too, so people...
PODCAST: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells us About Marriage (And Mental Load!)
What if there's a Bigger problem in marriage than sex or money? We always hear that the two biggest issues in marriage are sex and money, right? Wrong. One of our findings in our matched pair survey for our new book The Marriage You Want (out March 11!) that blew us...
Should Marriage Make You Holy or Happy?
Is marriage primarily about teaching you to be selfless and to grow like Jesus through suffering? I hope you would all say a resounding, “no!” We know that God thinks of marriage for our benefit–our emotional benefit, not just our character-transforming benefit. He...
How Do We Judge a Tree by Its Fruit with Marriage Advice?
How exactly do we judge something by its fruit? One of the things we’re adamant about here at Bare Marriage is the concept of “evidence-based” and “healthy” advice–meaning that you can judge things by their fruit. If we’re going to figure out if a teaching is healthy...
PODCAST: Should You Choose Between Being a Good Wife and a Good Mom? And why Date Nights Aren’t Always the Answer
Is being a good wife in conflict with being a good mom? And what does it look like to prioritize your marriage? Episode 270 of Bare Marriage!
Expectations in Marriage: 4 Things You Should Expect from Your Spouse
Is it wrong to have expectations in marriage? On Monday on the blog (and last Friday on Substack--are you following me there yet?) I was talking about entitlement in marriage, and how we found that to be the biggest marriage killer. (You can read all about it in our...
He’d Die for You. But Will He Do the Dishes?
"The husband has to be prepared to die for his wife." One of the most bizarre arguments defending men being in authority over women is the idea that one day, he may have to take a bullet for you. A husband has to be prepared to die for his wife, but God doesn’t ask...