There's been a big uptick lately of men especially on social media accusing us of having biased research in our study of 20,000 women. I don't normally address these issues from the blog, because, quite frankly, our work speaks for itself. We did the largest study of...
Sheila Wray Gregoire
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Evangelical Advice Saying Expectations in Marriage are Sinful Is Crazy-Making
A funny thing happened last week for Mother’s Day. The Gospel Coalition, a rather mainstream evangelical organization founded by the late Tim Keller and having entirely male leadership, published a Facebook post. And what was their message for Mother’s Day? Was it...
PODCAST: Why the Billy Graham Rule Hurts Men Too
The Billy Graham Rule sexualizes everyone--and isn't biblical. There's nothing in the Bible that says that we can't have healthy relationships with our brothers and sisters in Christ, and much that says the opposite. But the evangelical church has been obsessed with...
Why Understanding Obligation Sex Is Bad Doesn’t Fix Things On Its Own
Recovery from obligation sex begins with understanding autonomy and consent. It begins with understanding it was never God's will for one person to use someone else's body for their own pleasure/emotional coping mechanism, without consideration of what this was doing...
PODCAST: For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn Talk Lust and Sex!
This time we're looking at lust & sex in For Men Only! It's Part 2 of our deep dive into the book For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, and we saved the sex & lust & libido stuff to this podcast, because Rebecca had a lot to say. If you remember, the...
Why the Patriarchy-Egalitarian Spectrum Is Deceptive: Egalitarianism is the Middle!
I’m often accused of swinging the pendulum to the other extreme. Note: this article appeared on my Substack last week, and I wanted it here to to preserve it on my website! Plus I added some good stuff to it! I remember a commenter writing about how her husband was...






