What are the potential pitfalls of the sex talk with your kids? Having the sex talk with your kids can be so stressful! It feels awkward. What do you say? But one of the things we also know here at Bare Marriage, after surveying tens of thousands of people over the...
Talking to your kids about sex can be daunting. Few parents escape unscathed after explaining what sex is--and what's going to happen to kids' bodies! And yet I think our kids get the worst end of it. This week we are so excited to be launching the totally revamped...
Talking about sex to your child can be scary. It's awkward. Are you going to say something wrong? And you don't like to feel that they're growing up! Everyday I get questions like this recent one, from a reader:Hi! Your books and podcast have helped me tremendously!...
I'm supposed to be at the zoo today. My cousin and her daughter are visiting from out of town, and I cleared the calendar today so that I would be free to go the zoo. Rebecca and Connor and the kids and Keith were all available, and it was going to be a big family...
We had an amazing Theology in the Raw podcast with Preston Sprinkle. It dropped on Thursday, but I'd like to tell you about it, because we've never had this opportunity before to answer (friendly!) pushback about our views on modesty and consent. We were on the...
I read a story about how a youth group culture contributed to a young woman feeling guilty about her own assaults. I'd like to share it today, because it fits in to everything we've been talking about with She Deserves Better, our new book that launches April 18 (and...
It's time to focus on the effects of modesty messages on girls--rather than the effects of girls on boys. For the last few weeks we've been talking about modesty rules for teens, on the podcast, on the blog, and on social media. I often get extremely frustrated...
When we talk about modesty, I often see commenters saying, "But she's dressing like a ho." Whenever the talk comes up about how girls shouldn't be held responsible for boys' and men's thoughts, inevitably someone will say, "What about all the girls coming into church...
Why did the evangelical church not recognize pedophilic language? Last week on the Bare Marriage podcast we told you about Dannah Gresh's Secret Keeper Girl curriculum, popular during purity culture, which told 8-12 year-old girls that their bellies were...
Do boys have to fight constantly not to picture girls naked? Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast (episode 183) we walked you through some of the problems that we discovered with the modesty messages that were given to girls as teens, especially during the purity...
How does hearing modesty messages as a teen affect you as an adult? We're working through another big chapter in our new book She Deserves Better today! For She Deserves Better, we surveyed 7000+ women to learn how their experiences as teens in church affect them...
In his book Grace-Filled Marriage, Tim Kimmel blames a girl for her own rape.TRIGGER WARNING: Discussions of rape as a teen in the rest of this article.I thought today, for International Women's Day, I'd like to look at what Kimmel said, but especially at all the...
What dating rules work best for teen girls? We're so excited that our brand new book She Deserves Better: Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self and Speaking Up launches next month! Until that launch, we want to take the podcasts to walk you through some...
We simply must talk more about how spanking affects children long term. The biggest group of people who still support spanking are evangelical Christians, yet the research about spanking being harmful for kids is overwhelming. I'm not going to rehash that today,...
Every now and then my grandkids give me a picture of God’s love for us. Or rather, their parents do. I don’t share about my grandkids very often, but last week, on a private Instagram page, Rebecca posted a series of pictures of my 3-year-old grandson Alex and his dad...