One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the advice that is given about marriage and sex in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the...
Do complementarian men do best? That's what Nancy Pearcey says in her new book The Toxic War on Masculinity! Men who believe that marriage is a hierarchy and that men should get the final decisions (complementarians) do best. This is the podcast (and the op ed) that...
What if our advice actually triggers the behaviour we want to prevent? One of my favourite places on the internet is our private Patreon Facebook group, where the people who support us financially hang out. For just $5 a month people can join our Patreon group, and in...
Plus please see our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit for handy downloads about the effects of obligation sex that you can give to your pastor, counselor, small group leader–anyone who teaches it!
And see chapters 9 and 10 in The Great Sex Rescue for all our charts, stats, and commentary!
And please check out The Great Sex Rescue, and our Orgasm Course if that’s been an issue for you!
Looking at the 4 ways those who believe in hierarchy in marriage think marriage can go wrong
Plus see the book Keith co-authored with Sheila, The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex!
And please check out our book The Great Sex Rescue about all the ways that evangelicalism has given the wrong diagnosis about sex!
Ever feel like the fog of toxic teaching is lifting? One of the more encouraging things that’s happened to me online lately is my readers’ responses when I posted just one quote from the August 1 Desiring God article, “Your Husband Will Be Perfect; How To Love A...
Before we get going with the regular post, this week Connor called me up with a notification he got from our podcast host! We Hit 2,500,000 Downloads! Thank you so much for your constant support! This is thrilling. "Listens" tend to be higher than downloads, and that...
Evangelical materials are often very subpar. A few years ago, after I had written our first series about the problems with the book Love & Respect, a male friend of mine who had led sessions on Love & Respect at an annual men’s conference contacted me. He had...
We can change the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage. Let’s say that with the proper emphasis: We CAN change the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage. Or even: WE can change the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage. Together. That’s...
Social media is revealing that not all pastors and authors are experts. For several years in a former church we had a pastor who liked asking congregants to come up and give pertinent illustrations in their areas of expertise. So when he was talking about how the eye...
Why do people hate our research for The Great Sex Rescue so much? Well, really hate our research for everything, including our new book She Deserves Better! Last week, a Twitter storm broke out with me at the center of it. Podcast host Patrick Miller invited Josh...
Do boys have to fight constantly not to picture girls naked? Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast (episode 183) we walked you through some of the problems that we discovered with the modesty messages that were given to girls as teens, especially during the purity...
We usually talk about libido differences in terms of high vs. low. Who has the higher libido? Who has the lower libido? And are these the best ways to talk about libido? In today's podcast, we talk about two OTHER ways to conceptualize libido differences that we find...
Have you ever seen someone just totally twist a study to prove excatly what they want it to say? Then you read the study and you just go--hold up. That's not it at all! We dealt with this back when we reviewed a post by Josh Howerton talking about how...
What happens when the church promotes the idea that "all men struggle with lust"? We've got an all new RESEARCH DEEP DIVE podcast for you this week! Connor and I (Rebecca) are back bringing you some information about a new study that's out that is incredibly...
How many of us have heard a grown man grumble about what a teenager is wearing, saying “She knows what she’s doing”? Rebecca here on the blog, bringing you another dose of data from new research we haven’t reviewed on the blog yet! This one is super interesting, and...
Why are there some people who we WON'T call out, even though they promote harmful teachings? Every Friday, Rebecca writes practically a whole new blog post for our weekly newsletter. This is one she wrote from September, and I thought we'd share it on the blog to give...