ONE OF THE THINGS WE’RE PASSIONATE ABOUT ON THIS BLOG IS MAKING SURE THE ADVICE THAT IS GIVEN ABOUT MARRIAGE AND SEX IN THE EVANGELICAL WORLD IS HEALTHY. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the...
Do women long to be rescued? I may have done a Fixed-it-for-you-too-far last night on social media, critiquing John Eldredge for calling women's souls "a bloody mess" in the book Captivating, that he co-authored with his wife Stasi. While most people agreed with me,...
Keith and I have been in the RV for a week and I have made a significant discovery! First, though, I'm not going to have a normal post up today. I'm in vacation mode and couldn't think of anything about marriage to write about. Rebecca, however, has already written...
Let's talk about the echoes of menstruation. Yesterday on the podcast, we were discussing how Focus on the Family's PluggedIn movie review of Turning Red put references to preteen girls' periods under "sexual content", and warned that the title of the movie had an...
Vaginismus was a big part of the early story of my marriage. We were greeted on our wedding night by an inability to have intercourse because it hurt too much. I was expecting sex to hurt a little bit, but not like that. It caused so many hurt feelings on both sides....
I know this is way too much TMI, but reusable menstrual products changed my life. Seriously. I'm three years past menopause now, but I've become a huge advocate for reusable menstrual products, because for the last 15 years of my period I used them. I found regular...
Did you know that it's only recently that medical textbooks have started getting the clitoris right? For years, the clitoris was shown as smaller than it actually is, and often the nerves and rooots were omitted. The penis, on the other hand, tended to be shown in...
With thanks to Femallay for sponsoring this post. Your vagina was meant to be lubricated, supple, and elastic. It's supposed to be able to stretch (for obvious reasons, like both penetrative sex and childbirth), but then it's also supposed to go back into place...
How can we feel sexually confident if we believe that our bodies are gross, objects of embarrassment, or something that makes us "less than"? For a woman to feel sexually confident, she has to feel that being a woman is a good thing, not a source of shame. And yet,...
In the last few years, menstrual cups have become a much more mainstream period tool for women. Rebecca here today, and I'm gonna give you a good old warning right at the beginning of this post: we're going to get real personal here! And the reason for that is what...
Just because you're not going to date doesn't mean you don't get your heart broken. My article yesterday on how Elisabeth Elliot's courtship with Jim sounds quite toxic and unfair to Elisabeth blew up on Facebook and social media. Most were in agreement that we really...
Tired of painful Pap smears? Worried about your upcoming Pap test? Let's talk about how to make Pap smears more comfortable! We're at the end of our pelvic floor series for June, and we've been looking at the importance of the pelvic floor, postpartum pain, what...
Vaginismus is the main culprit when women experience painful sex. But it isn't the ONLY reason for painful sex. This month, for the pelvic floor series, we've been talking about painful sex and how to treat it, and looking at why evangelical women experience painful...
What happens when you develop vaginismus LATER--after you've already started having sex? How is this even possible? And can you get over it? That's what we're going to talk about today!We're in the middle of our pelvic floor series, and we've been touching on...
Vaginismus plagues, to some extent, about 22% of wives. And for 7%, it makes penetration impossible. Vaginismus is a sexual dysfunction disorder where the muscles of the vaginal wall contract involuntarily (you're not deliberately causing it!), making penetration very...