Being the higher drive spouse can be really frustrating. You want to connect with your spouse, and you want to have a passionate marriage, but it seems like your spouse doesn't share those same desires. And that can feel like a rejection. This is the last post in the...
How do you initiate sex with your wife without turning her off? We've been working through an obligation sex series for the last few weeks, and one of the big things I've been stressing is that making your spouse feel like they are obligated to have sex has disastrous...
Obligation sex can wreak havoc on us. For last month we’ve been doing a deep dive into obligation sex, looking at the main problems with obligation sex, how it affects women’s bodies, why you don’t need to consent to being used, and more. But as we’re nearing the end...
If you want sex more often than your spouse, are you doomed to have a disappointing sex life? It's September, and in Ontario, where I live, the kids are back to school today (I know they've been back for a month where some of you all live, and in Australia & NZ, I...
Do you have sex during your period? Or is sex during your period off of the table? We're in the middle of our series on periods! We've talked about the shame that some of us felt as teens; we've talked about how men can be more empathetic and aware of periods; and...
Have you all heard "sex begins in the kitchen"--not meaning that we should do interesting things with whipping cream, but that doing the dishes is a good method to get women to warm up? I hear this a lot--"Guys, if you want her to have sex with you, you had better...
We know that sex is vulnerable to women. But is it vulnerable to men, too? I received this reader question recently which I found really insightful. She asks,I am currently going through the book, "Rethinking Sexuality" by Dr Julie Slattery. She quotes Timothy Keller...
Sometimes libido differences can send you on a negative spiral, where both of you are constantly feeling rejected. In about 7 weeks (yikes!) our manuscript for The Great Sex Rescue is due in at the publishers, so I'm frantically writing. I would have been doing that...
If you're a Christian, can you be a sexually confident woman? Absolutely! In fact, you should be a sexually confident woman, because you understand the richness of how God made sex! I'm just back from an amazing vacation (and I'll post about it on Friday; I really...
Do you find it hard to get comfortable with your body? And is part of the problem that you just don't understand how your body works? I just finished a few posts about the Ultimate Women's Wellness Bundle to help you understand your body. But what if you didn't get it...
Feel like you have no libido--as if it's in hibernation or something? You're not alone! This post contains affiliate links. I love talking on the blog about how libido is so much more than just physical--how it's spiritual and emotional, too. In my Boost Your Libido...
I've talked a lot about masturbation in marriage on this blog before. I've tended to come down pretty hard on masturbation (I really hope there's not some ugly double entendre there that I'm not seeing) in the past when it's done for selfish reasons. In this post, for...
What do you do when you're feeling sexually frustrated in your marriage? A lot of advice for sexual frustration tends to be for singles, because sex is entirely off the table. But what about when you're married, when sex IS an option, but your spouse just isn't giving...
What do you do if sex is very distasteful, and you'd rather not be sexual in your marriage at all? Last Friday I wrote a post about how withholding sex in your marriage is not a good idea (it's better to deal with WHY you're withholding sex). And last week I wrote...
Is withholding sex in marriage okay? If you're not a sexual person, or if you don't think your spouse deserves sex, is it okay to cut them off from sex? A lot of people who are on this blog are desperate because their spouses have sex with them less than once a month,...