Do you feel like God is constantly disappointed in you? I’m enjoying some downtime this summer, and so I’ve been wanting to share with you some thoughts from some amazing women, highlighting them and giving them some much deserved exposure (so you can follow them...
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On Christianity Today, Plagiarism Culture, and Feeling Erased
This has been a week of great thrills and great disappointments. Thankfully, the thrills were REALLY GOOD. Our new books The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex launched, and they're doing really well! Thank you for your support. Let's...
These Books Would Have Changed Our Lives
If we had had these Great Sex Guides before we got married, there would be no Great Sex Rescue. No To Love, Honor and Vacuum blog. No Bare Marriage podcast. Why? Because we wouldn't have had years of pain that we had to untangle from, so I wouldn't have started...
On Vipers in Diapers, Emotional Enmeshment, and Toxic Churches
Dads shouldn't need their adult daughters to give them adulation and affection. That's called emotional enmeshment and triangulation, and yet that's what Voddie Baucham, who has been nominated for President of the Southern Baptist Convention (he may not actually run)...
The Uncomfortable Truth about Waiting until You’re Married for Sex
Growing up, we hear, over and over again: "Just wait for the wedding night! The wedding night will the most magical night of your life!" We get that message from our youth groups; from movies; from bridal magazines. The honeymoon is the pinnacle of your sexual life...
Is Someone Stepping on Your Air Hose?
So many women--and many men as well--honestly feel like the church is hurting them. I do not believe that it is Jesus that is hurting them, but the things that the church teaches, especially around sex and marriage, do cause harm. Our surveys have shown that...
Can Sex Be Hot and Holy at the Same Time?
Can sex be hot and holy at the same time? One of my big picture passions that I want people to understand is that sex is more than just physical--it's supposed to be deeply intimate too. And maybe to understand that, we need to take a step back to see what God thinks...
Who I WON’T Be Calling Out for Bad Teachings–But I’m Grateful You Are!
This week, as we've celebrated one year of The Great Sex Rescue, I've received some amazing messages! The first one in my inbox this morning was this one:I shared your book with the marriage ministry leaders in our church. They read it, met with their volunteer team,...
Who Believed the Toxic Sex Teachings More: Husband or Wife?
I truly believe that most guys are good guys. I often get accused of hating men, but that's actually not the case. What I hate are the common teachings in the evangelical church that hurt sex and marriage for women. Tomorrow is the one year anniversary of when The...
What Kids Teach Us about God; The Reason Sex Gets Messed Up; And Plagiarism!
Do you ever feel like God loves you--with an asterisk? On Fridays I often do round-ups of what's happened on social media this week, and there is so much to share I don't know where to begin. So I've decided to start with something that isn't even my own, but...
Why Is the Church So Afraid of Women’s Voices?
Have people ever tried to silence you simply because you're a woman? The summer when I was 16 years old, I went on a Teen Missions International team to the Philippines. It was not a good experience. While I know that some enjoyed their time with Teen Missions, I...
What Does It Meant to Be “Against Abuse”?
Okay, everybody: raise your hand if you're pro-abuse! Of course no one is pro-abuse. So what does it mean to be anti-abuse? Just a few quick thoughts on a Tuesday (I try not to write long posts on Tuesdays to give myself a day to get a lot of work done), but I had...
I Want You. I Need You. I Hope You Like Me Back!
In this case, 2/3 may be bad! I've got that song by Meatloaf (Whoops! I originally wrote Meatball) going through my head--"I want you, I need you"--because I want to tell you about our Launch Team for The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the totally revamped Good...