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10 Things That Scare Me About the “Purity” Culture

10 Things That Scare Me About the “Purity” Culture

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jan 19, 2016 | Faith, Sex

Does the purity culture movement do more harm than good? Last week I wrote a three part series on vaginismus, when you experience pain during intercourse. And in that series we ended up discussing the purity culture in modern Christianity, and its potentially harmful...
PODCAST: Good Fruit–Are We Measuring It Right When it Comes to Christian Marriage Teaching?

PODCAST: Good Fruit–Are We Measuring It Right When it Comes to Christian Marriage Teaching?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 30, 2026 | Connecting, Podcasts, Theology of Marriage and Sex

How do you actually measure the “good fruit” of marriage teaching? Over the last little while, we’ve been criticized for saying that it’s good fruit if marriages are happy, while ignoring the more important things like whether people are...
PODCAST: Incels vs. Pastors–“We Respond to Crazy Pastor Clips” Pallooza!

PODCAST: Incels vs. Pastors–“We Respond to Crazy Pastor Clips” Pallooza!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Dec 11, 2025 | Podcasts

Let’s take on some common horrid evangelical talking points! I thought, as we’re getting to the end of the year, that Keith and I could spend a podcast just reacting to some of the common things we hear pastors say from the pulpit, or influencers say...
PODCAST: Breaking Free of Christian Patriarchy & Why people deconstruct

PODCAST: Breaking Free of Christian Patriarchy & Why people deconstruct

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Jul 4, 2024 | Podcasts

What’s it like when your family starts out normal, but grows fundamentalist? Today on the podcast we’re interviewing Cait West, the author of just a beautiful memoir, Rift.  She talks about what it’s like to grow up in a Christian patriarchal family,...
PODCAST: Why Evangelical Honeymoons Go So Badly feat. Jay Stringer

PODCAST: Why Evangelical Honeymoons Go So Badly feat. Jay Stringer

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 28, 2024 | Podcasts, Preparing for Marriage

Is the honeymoon all about the guy FINALLY getting sex? Nope. But too often evangelicals talk like this–and it has grave consequences. Licensed counselor Jay Stringer sent me a video a few weeks ago that he was really concerned about. SBC Megachurch pastor Josh...
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Have you ever noticed that a lot of common Christian sex advice just sounds really icky?

Sex is supposed to be great. Like, really great. So great that it’s hard to keep your hands off each other great. 

So why do so many Christian marriage books present it as another chore to check off of a woman’s to-do list? 

Why do so many Christian sex books portray men as doomed to sexual deviancy? 

We’re on a mission to change the conversation about sex in evangelical spaces. And to do that, we started by scoring our current best-sellers based on a Healthy Sexuality Scorecard. 

Want to see how your favourite book scored? 

You can download the rubric and scorecard (including quotes that explain the score) here, for free!

Get the rubric and scorecard--for free!