The window of tolerance concept helps highlight emotional health. On a recent podcast episode, I was honoured to have licensed counsellor, Jay Stringer, on as a guest. One of the things he talked about was that evangelical views on gender roles and marriage are...
We love to say that spouses aren’t just roommates And they’re definitely not! Roommates share a living space, and little else. Spouses are supposed to share everything. But at the same time, there are some basic things that go into the roommate experience that may...
Do the 5 Love Languages stand up to scientific scrutiny? In January of this year, an article was published and was called Popular Psychology Through a Scientific Lens: Evaluating Love Languages From a Relationship Science Perspective in the Psychological Science...
God Didn’t Make Women To Be Better at Relationships than Men. We talked in our first podcast of the month about four new studies on marriage & sex. This month we’re taking a deeper dive into the studies in some of our blog posts. So let’s look at this study:...
Want something to help you have some deep conversations with your spouse? Keith and I are in the throes of finishing up the first big draft of our marriage book that comes out next spring! It's due in at the publishers on March 1. A big part of that book is the...
You're not going to believe what Emerson Eggerichs' idea of friendship is. We're in podcast 2 of a 3 podcast series, Let Men Be Men! Our thesis is a simple one: we believe that men can be emotionally healthy, competent, responsible people. We believe that men can, and...
Is it really a woman's role to pretend like everything is okay? To see her life as just being about surrender, as if her needs don't matter? We're going to look at some typical advice that's given to women in the evangelical church, and show how this can actually lead...
What does the Enneagram have to say about your marriage? I'm a total personality test geek. My mom spent a lot of her career utilizing different personality tools in her business consulting role going in to talk about corporate change, and she was really big on the...
Could the rose-colored glasses effect be masking marital unhappiness? Last month, one of our podcasts worked through some of the issues with claims that complementarian, conservative women had the best marital outcomes. We also wrote a long opinion piece detailing...
Sometimes I laugh when making a Fixed It for You and I just can't stop. I mean, often my Fixed It for Yous are so awful that they make you angry and make you all riled up to change things all at once. And sometimes they're so stupid (for lack of a better word) that...
Do you remember your pre-teen years when you used to dream of kissing your crush? In those days you likely couldn't imagine much beyond kissing, but kissing was a BIG DEAL. All the romance movies ended when the couple had their first kiss. The culmination of teenage...
When we marry, it's because we want to be with someone for the rest of our lives. We enjoy being with them. We love them. We want that relationship. And God said that was a good thing! "It is not good for man to be alone." This month on the blog we're looking at the...
Is it wrong to have expectations in marriage? We've been talking about entitlement in marriage, and on Monday I wrote about the difference between feeling entitled and having realistic expectations in marriage. I want to expand on that today. So often we're told that...
If we want great sex...we may need to look OUTSIDE the bedroom for answers! Here's a stat that I shared on social media last night about the correlation between arousal and emotional connection:It's just one stat in a bigger chart in The Great Sex Rescue--which has...
What if there's something super simple you could do that could improve your mood and your marriage? I talked on Monday about rhythms in our lives--how to honor our bodies' rhythms, with the need for work and rest; for feasting and fasting. And I thought today we could...