SEX and YOUR BODY SERIES: The Body Keeps the Score and Sexual Trauma

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Feb 24, 2020 | Series

How does trauma impact our physical bodies–and our sexual lives? I’ve been wanting to read The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk for several months now. It’s been highly recommended by so many who study and work in the field of sexual...

PODCAST EXTRAS: The 9 Signs of Grooming Behavior for Sexual Abuse

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Nov 14, 2019 | Abuse, Podcasts

I’m afraid that most of us don’t know the signs of grooming behavior when it comes to sexual abuse. I know I didn’t! But sexual abuse, especially in churches, has been in the news a lot lately, and I thought it was worth doing a post on recognizing...

Andy Savage, Who Assaulted a Girl in His Youth Group, Should Not Have a New Church

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 30, 2019 | Abuse, Faith

So Andy Savage, a former megachurch pastor from Memphis, is now starting a new church, despite being disqualified from ministry. I have had a tremendously busy week. Our grandson was born exactly a week ago, and we just got back from being with Rebecca and Connor (and...

Reader Question: My Husband Wakes me Up for Sex

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 21, 2019 | Abuse, Libido

If your husband wakes you up for sex, or starts sex with you when you’re asleep, is that okay? A reader sent me a link to a post that The Transformed Wife did recently where she was telling a woman that being woken up for sex when she didn’t want to be is...

How to Reconnect with Your Body if You’re an Abuse Survivor (or Trauma Survivor)

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Oct 4, 2019 | Abuse

When you’re abused, a common defense mechanism is dissociation–when you mentally “flee” your body and try to be anywhere but here. That helps you live through trauma. But it also creates a whole heap of problems down the road when you’re...