Obligation Sex is the idea that a wife is obligated to have sex when her husband wants to. It’s that simple. It was one of the beliefs that we studied in our survey of 20,000 women for our book The Great Sex Rescue, and we found that when women believed this message...
Sheila here! Keith’s had something gnawing at him for quite a few months, and asked if he could write the series for June where he can build his case. He’s recently read the Danvers Statement, the statement that solidifies the complementarian view of marriage based on...
Do you remember your pre-teen years when you used to dream of kissing your crush? In those days you likely couldn't imagine much beyond kissing, but kissing was a BIG DEAL. All the romance movies ended when the couple had their first kiss. The culmination of teenage...
Plus please see our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit for handy downloads about the effects of obligation sex that you can give to your pastor, counselor, small group leader–anyone who teaches it!
And see chapters 9 and 10 in The Great Sex Rescue for all our charts, stats, and commentary!
And please check out The Great Sex Rescue, and our Orgasm Course if that’s been an issue for you!
Looking at the 4 ways those who believe in hierarchy in marriage think marriage can go wrong
Plus see the book Keith co-authored with Sheila, The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex!
And please check out our book The Great Sex Rescue about all the ways that evangelicalism has given the wrong diagnosis about sex!
How do you dig out of a pit you’ve dug for your sex life in marriage? A 4 point plan to rebuild sex, starting with reframing sex & making everyone feel safe.
What if sex doesn't start in the kitchen--but her libido can die there? Rebecca here on the blog today, and I want to tell you about a fascinating new study coming out of Australia. This is the first post in our research deep-dive series on the blog that will be...
What if our marriage advice doesn't work because we're diagnosing marriage problems wrong? This month we're starting a new series called Marriage Misdiagnosis, looking at how often our marriage advice doesn't work because we've got the wrong aims, and thus our advice...
Have you ever heard the name Josephine Butler? If you were alive in London in 1880 you likely would have. In her time, she was as well-known as Florence Nightingale, but history has largely forgotten her. This month on the podcast, we're bringing back women that have...
What if aging parents need help, but only one child lives near them? This week I’ve been rerunning a series I did a few years ago about caring for aging parents. I originally started the conversation by accident, with a little bit of a rant on 3 things parents should...
If you need your adult children to eventually care for you, then that should factor into an equation NOW. I've been thinking about something for a while now that I'd like to just say. It's going to be a bit of a rant, and I may not sound very sympathetic. But I think...
Welcome to the "what's killing women's libido?" series! In the month of June I want to look at some of the reasons that women's libido is often so low, and look at what we can do about that. Now, I know that many of you reading this blog have the opposite...
This month we're going to talk about attachment styles and why they matter! Attachment styles are the way that we relate to other people, and they're based on what we learned when relating to our earliest caregivers. The field really took off in the 1950s studying...
Sexual confidence can sound almost, well, scary, can't it? Like it's something we can never really live up to. A sexually confident woman is someone who is totally okay with her body; totally orgasmic; totally cool telling her husband what she wants in bed. It's...
Are you doing marriage on hard mode? In a few weeks Keith and I will be taking a two week vacation down east in our RV. We're heading to New Brunswick and Nova Scotia and we're going to do some hiking and I'm going to eat a lot of seafood chowder! Whenever we go out...
Why is it so hard to tell your spouse what you're thinking? What you want? What you need? For the month of August we're going to talk about direct communication--how to be up front with your spouse so you actually know what each other is thinking, rather than having...
How does trauma impact our physical bodies--and our sexual lives? I've been wanting to read The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk for several months now. It's been highly recommended by so many who study and work in the field of sexual trauma, and so, when...