Welcome to our new website!
It looks like you’re trying to find some content that isn’t available anymore. I (Sheila) have been blogging at To Love, Honor and Vacuum since 2008–that’s a lot of blog posts over the years!
As we moved to Bare Marriage, we were picky about what content we brought over. The post you are looking for didn’t make the cut. However, there are still over 900 posts on this website so I am sure you can find something for your situation here!
Here’s where you can search for specific topics, or else see the latest on the blog:
Recent Posts
PODCAST: the Mica MIller Tragedy Is the End Result of the Evangelical Take on Sex
Sometimes I say things on interviews much better than I say them on my own podcast! Because we talk about the evangelical take on sex on the Bare Marriage podcast ALL THE TIME, when I address it on our podcast it's usually because of a very specific issue. We look at...
A Call for Mainline Christians to Reach Out to Evangelicals
Mainline Christians are salt of the earth people. Ever noticed that? They often fill all the volunteer slots at soup kitchens. They do the Christmas and Thanksgiving community giving programs. They volunteer with recent immigrants and refugees. It's often the more...
How Evangelical Church Services Can Work Against Justice and Support the Status Quo
Is the evangelical church missing the boat when it comes to justice for women? Not just missing the boat theologically by supporting doctrines that subordinate women, but missing the boat in general when it comes to advocating for justice? I think it is. But I don't...
PODCAST: What Is the Dignity Line? Plus We Analyze a Pastor’s SErmon on Sex
Today I'm going to intoduce you to Dawn, The Minimal Mom! And there's a story behind it. Dawn has a huge platform where she's shared info, tips, and inspiration for becoming more minimal and oganized to be able to enjoy life more. But along the way she got divorced,...
The Trends that Shaped Gen X Pastors and Gen X Church Women
I got up at 6 in the morning to watch Lady Diana Spencer marry Prince Charles Sixteen years later, I watched her funeral three times in succession in one day, starting at 4 in the morning (I was up anyway with a baby who didn't sleep). I have tried to expain to my...
PODCAST: Live, Laugh, Love with Kristen Kobes Du Mez
At long last, Live, Laugh, Love is here! Kristin Du Mez made history when she wrote Jesus and John Wayne, the history of evangelicalism and how it led to Trump (and what it said about masculinity). People wanted her to do the same thing to write about how the...
The Roller Coaster of Emotions that is Live, Laugh, Love
Learning how the sausage is made is not always a pleasant experience. But ignorance isn’t always bliss. And knowing the truth is fascinating, and maturing, and mesmerizing even as it evokes horror and disgust. In the last few years there have been a plethora of books...
Biblical Womanhood Is Basically the Fawn Trauma Response (You Can Pre-Order Now!)
Fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Those are the common responses we have to trauma. When we face a threat, our body may go into fight mode. We may try to run away (or desperately want to!). We may freeze, feel unable to do anything. Or we may fawn. That last one is a...
PODCAST: Look Like a Lady–5 Visual Tropes of Womanhood that Keep Women Small
What does it mean to look like a lady? One of the fun part about my job is that I get to read books that I wouldn't otherwise hear of--books that are unique, ever so cool, and change my thinking. All while teaching me something new! Look Like a Lady is like that. We...