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Recent Posts
Why Complementarianism Is Part of the Bad Outcomes Package for Marriage
Does complementarianism lead to good marriage outcomes? I'm going to answer that question in this post, but I want you to keep something in the back of your head as you're reading this. One of these things is not like the other, one of these things just doesn’t...
PODCAST: Why Teamwork Works Better Than Hierarchy
When it comes to marriage, teamwork is associated with all the good stuff! Hierarchy, on the other hand, is associated with all the bad stuff. We explain today on the Bare Marriage podcast some of our biggest picture findings in The Marriage You Want, and how we...
What Makes a Good Marriage?
What do we mean by “a good marriage”? When we say, “I want a good marriage”, what, exactly, are we talking about? A marriage that lasts 50 years? A marriage that doesn’t divorce? A marriage that produces great kids? A marriage that follows God’s “created order” of a...
What if Emerson Eggerichs is Asking Men to look nothing like Jesus?
What if Emerson Eggerichs is asking men to look nothing like Jesus? Let’s ask a question: What’s the goal of the Christian life? Is it to look more and more like Christ? After all, Romans 8:29 tells us that we are to be transformed into the likeness of Jesus. 1 Peter...
PODCAST: Why Evangelical Marriage Advice Often Backfires–The 5-Point Faulty Foundation
I often get accused of just hating all evangelical marriage books. Surely there's SOMETHING you like, Sheila? Right? Or are you just trying to badmouth everything so that you can sell more books? The critiques often go like that. But here's the thing: It actually...
The Marriage You Want Party is About to Start!
I've been talking about this for so long, and it's just about time to open the doors! The Launch Team for our book The Marriage You Want launches--for lack of a better word--next Monday. So now's the time to join so you can be all ready to go when the doors open!...
Debunking the Love & Respect Thesis Definitively, Once and For All
The idea that men want respect while women want love doesn't stand up to scientific scrutiny. We've studied it, as have others, and we can now definitively say that it's bunk. And I wanted a post that outlined some of it here on the blog--not just in our new book The...
PODCAST: Demolishing the Love and Respect Dichotomy Definitively (with Data)
It's the podcast where we finally get to disprove the love & respect thesis! Did God make men to need respect, while women need love? Do men prefer respect over love? We've been told this for decades, starting with James Dobson popularizing it, and then Emerson...
What Does “Respect Your Husband” Mean to Evangelical Leaders?
When evangelical teachers say “men need respect”, what do they mean? On both Facebook and Threads, I posted this question:“Men have a unique, God-given need for respect.” When evangelical leaders teach this in regards to marriage, what, practically, are they saying...