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Recent Posts
Saving Face: Aimee Byrd Writes to Heal Those Left Bruised by a Defaced Church
With thanks to Zondervan and Saving Face for sponsoring this post When I was seven years old I used to go on walks with Jesus. I was the only child of a single mother, and I was often quite lonely. But I took Jesus at His word when He said, “I have called you friend.”...
PODCAST: The Problems with The Love Dare, and Why It Just Papers Over REal Problems
The Love Dare by the Kendrick Brothers is a problematic book. As we talked about yesterday, it encourages people to paper over real problems, ignore abuse and infidelity, and gaslight yourself into thinking you're the problem. You can access our one-sheet download on...
The Love Dare by the Kendrick Brothers: A Review of the Problems (with Download)
Let's take a look at The Love Dare by the Kendrick brothers Do you remember the movie Fireproof? It had a book that went along with it--The Love Dare--and that book has been a huge best-seller for two decades. Today we're going to take a close look at it for a...
My Somewhat Scattered Easter Thoughts At the Margins
Theology doesn't save us. Doctrine doesn't save us. Resurrection saves us. (And transformation is the point!) I've been thinking about that ever since my podcast last week with Aimee Byrd, talking about her new book Saving Face, which is quite profound and lovely....
PODCAST: SAVING FACE–Finding God, My Self, and Community with Aimee Byrd
Why does church hurt often leave us feeling so alone? Why do we study our Bibles and study our Bibles, and still feel distant from God and others? Aimee Byrd is joining us to talk about her beautiful new book Saving Face, which points us to the journey of true...
How Do You Make Decisions When You Disagree—Without a Tie-Breaker?
In marriage, should husbands make the final decision if the couple can’t reach agreement? Many Christians would say yes. In fact, in our survey of 20,000 women that we ran for The Great Sex Rescue, 39.4% of respondents agreed with that statement. Many Christians who...
Men’s Comfort vs. Women’s Safety: Why Evangelicals Need Nuance
Sheila here! Did you know that every Friday about 45,000 people get an email from us, written by Rebecca? And more people read her article than read anything I write on the blog or on Substack! It's usually really well thought out, and connects a lot of the different...
PODCAST: Why Are Evangelical women REfusing to Marry Evangelical Men?
Evangelical men can't get married. And it's all women's fault, according to Al Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. It's a "crisis", a "five-alarm fire". It's bad. In his podcast "The Briefing", he recently did some commentary on a Wall Street...
Are Romance Novels Women’s Equivalent to Porn?
Is reading romance novels the same as watching porn? When I call out watching porn, I inevitably get some commenters (usually men) complaining that I don’t call out women reading romance novels. Both set up unrealistic expectations; both get people to focus on sex...