I am so grateful to all of you who show up in this community, engage on this blog and on social media.
I’m so grateful to those of you who listen to the podcast, send me messages, and let me know we’re making a difference!
And I know that so many of you have said that you’re grateful for our team, too.
So I thought I’d take this opportunity at Christmas to give you some super quick, easy way to support the Bare Marriage team!
Just to let you know how our income works:
- Book royalties pay my salary (but my biggest books have royalties split 3 ways!)
- Course sales and merch sales pay for my staff and website expenses
- Patreon money pays for our research and for extra projects
So any time you support us, you give me more wiggle room to hire staff for a few more hours a week to free me up to work on some new books or projects! (I’m starting writing our marriage book in January of 2023!).
Here, then, are some quick win-wins that help both of us!
1. Pick up our Merch for Christmas Gifts!
I told you about our awesome Be a Biblical Woman merch on Wednesday, and we’ve got two designs about biblical womanhood (click on the designs to see all the merch for that design):
And we’ve got other designs as well! (Plus more–check them out!).
We’ve even got our Bare Marriage logo or The Great Sex Rescue logo so that you can start conversations at work or church!
The designs are available on T-shirts, stickers, mugs, coffee thermoses, ornaments, notebooks, tote bags, and more!
2. Buy our Books for Christmas Gifts
And right now Amazon has The Great Sex Rescue on for just $2.99 on Kindle! I have no idea why–but it’s selling really well (thank you!). This doesn’t make us a ton of money, but it gets more people reading the book, which is our big aim.
You can gift Kindle books, too, so you can pick it up for a friend and send it to him or her!
Don’t want to buy the Kindle? The paperback is a great gift for a counselor or a friend, and you can also buy audible credits!
Or pick up The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex or The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex for a couple who just got married or just got engaged.
3. Use My Amazon Link for Your Purchases
If you’re going to be buying stuff on Amazon this Christmas, do you mind clicking through from this link? Even if you’re not buying my books, when you use my link, I get a portion of the sales.
4. Check out My Amazon Suggestions!
I’ve got my favourite books all listed and organized here, our favourite kids’ books, and more!
Or check out my list of favourite board games and pick up one of those for Christmas!
5. Pre-Order She Deserves Better
Our new book for moms of daughters launches in April, but you can pre-order it now!
Here’s why pre-ordering matters: You only pay when the book launches, and you get the cheapest price. If enough people pre-order, Amazon starts reducing the price, down to as much as 40% off. The more Amazon decreases the price, the more people will pre-order!
And the higher it ranks on Amazon, the more likely public libraries and other bookstores are to order it in. So your pre-order helps us sell more!
Plus we’ll have some awesome pre-ordering bonuses available starting March 1 that you’ll get access to.
5. Join our Patreon
My absolute favourite place on the internet is our private Facebook group for our Patreon supporters. It’s my safe space where I can just be myself, and we all can talk about what we’re learning. There are some super smart people in that group who get me thinking, and so many of my posts are based on conversations that happened first in the Patreon group.
The money from Patreon will support three big projects in 2023: Two big surveys we’re doing, plus producing one sheets for problematic books that people can take to pastors, church librarians, or counselors.
Plus a few more projects we’ll tell you about in January! Join us here.
6. Hit the Tip Jar
If you just want to give a Christmas present to us, but you don’t want merch or to give every month, you can always hit our tip jar!
And now for a few that won’t cost any money!
7. Subscribe to our Podcast–and Download Some Episodes
We’re so, so close to 1,000,000 downloads in just a year! We hit 1,000,000 downloads overall last December 31, after three years of podcasts, but this year we’re super close to 1,000,000 downloads in 2022 alone.
So subscribe to the Bare Marriage podcast on your podcast app and download some episodes on your phone, and help us get our stats! The more downloads we have per episode, the easier it will be to get sponsors in the new year.
8. Leave a Review if You’ve Read The Great Sex Rescue or The Good Guy’s/Good Girl’s Guides to Great Sex
If you’ve read our books, it always helps to have 5-star reviews on Amazon and/or Goodreads (or wherever you bought the books!).
9. Tell Us How We Helped You This Year, or What You’re Praying for Us
Finally, one of the biggest things that helps me is hearing from all of you. I keep a file of encouragement emails, and at the end of the year I often just read through a whole bunch while curled up on my yellow chair and drinking my tea. And I just let God speak over me. So if you have anything you want to share with us, leave a comment here!
Okay, I think that’s it. That’s all the ways that you can help us practically, encourage us personally, and set us up for even more reach in 2023.
Thanks, everybody! I really appreciate you!
I ordered my “Be a Biblical Woman” mugs. One for myself and several others for friends and families.
I didn’t know they came in different colors. Cool Beans!
About the Hazardous Materials stickers…
I wish that I had bookmarks like that back in the day when Hobby Lobby was selling Love and Respect. I’d have put them inside the books, Since they weren’t mine, stickers wouldn’t have been appropriate. But I felt sick inside every time I saw them on display. They aren’t there anymore, thank God and the efforts of this team and others who have been raising the alarm. So no need for bookmarks in Hobby Lobby.
Oh, that bookmark idea is brilliant! They could be left in library books, etc., too.
I am so thankful for this website and the team behind it! My eyes have been opened. My husband’s eyes have been opened (getting results is a different matter, but at least with opened eyes there is a measure of hope.) In the past 3 years, I have been emboldened to speak to my husband, my son, and some friends. More importantly, I’m speaking up for myself.
I have learned more about scripture, about God’s heart for His creation, how to really dig into cultural context to better understand God’s Word, and learned of safer resources than what has been peddled for years as “biblical.” I’m raising a son to better respect women (and men) than what has been demonstrated in previous generations. I’m beginning my journey to find a faith in a God that doesn’t want to suppress me but gives me freedom to use the gifting He has chosen for/given me. (Why would he create people with gifts then tell them not to use them because they are married to a man?)
While I am in a season of great struggle right now, what I have learned here has given me hope that there can be a future for me as a child of God in truth, not merely a legalistic image of such.
I picked up several copies of TGSR when it was on sale last month through Baker Books. I gave one yesterday to a Christian women in my M.S. in Counseling graduate program and have specific recipients in mind for my other copies. I store it in my glove compartment just in case an opportunity arises when I’m out and about. I’m also planning on slipping some copies into free little libraries around town as well (and hopefully taking out any toxic books as well).
I love this so much! Thank you, Emily.
Love you Sheila — just putting a bee in your bonnet here to get more of your books translated to Spanish. We are longing to have them, to be able to gift them, to teach from them, to circulate them. You think American and Canadian Evangelical culture needs some help, you should see it in a traditionally “macho” culture. Great Sex Rescue, Good Girl/Guy Guide to Great Sex… send a note to the publisher or whoever does the translating and then marketing. Missionary in Mexico
I would honestly love to. Truly. Unfortunately it isn’t up to me or even my publisher. Spanish publishers have to ask for the rights and pay for them. Our publisher has approached several Spanish publishers, who say that there’s not really a demand in the market for these books.
Obviously that’s not true, but we need a Spanish publisher to want to take the book. I’ve been debating starting a petition about it? I’m not sure!
Hi Sheila,
An old friend introduced your book to me this past spring through her book club.
My sister had filed for divorce and was a couple months away from finalizing it.
Your book helped me see the patterns of her marriage more clearly and less personally which made me better able to support her. Chapters 6 and 10 described so much of her marriage.
I think it provided so much emotional and spiritual support at such a difficult time. We also got support in a more practical way through the separation and divorce process from the work Bill Eddy has done at The High Conflict Institute.
The process was incredibly fraught with stress from unfamiliar circumstances and deadlines.
My sister cried when I sent her a copy and said it was like reading her own thoughts.
I just sent a copy to a friend who is a child counselor who texted
“The sex book is seriously blowing my mind with epiphanies”
Hopefully more of the Lutheran world will also become aware of the problems you talk about and have the courage to have a conversation.
Oh, Jo, thank you for getting the book out to more people! That’s just so encouraging. And I’m so glad that it could help you support your sister at such a tender time. I’m so sorry that she went through that. So very sorry.
Does your merch store have larger mugs? I would love to get a biblical woman mug but I drink coffee in larger than 11oz allotments.