PODCAST: The Misleading Tactics of Complementarianism feat. Lydia Kaiser

by | Jan 15, 2026 | Podcasts, Theology of Marriage and Sex | 0 comments

Every now and then a book comes along that is just so succinct and clear about women.

And Lydia Kaiser has written a gem of a book in Bible Truth about Women! It’s out next month, and I read an early copy, and I’m so excited to share it with you in today’s podcast, and encourage you to pre-order it (because pre-orders help authors so much since bookstores look at numbers!).

There are so many books that look at the Greek of passages about women, or the context, or even the effects on women when theology is used to keep us down.

But Lydia combines all of that into this very easily read, concise book that covers an incredible amount of ground.

And what makes her book different is that she lays out the strategies that those who try to keep women down use to misapply and misconstrue Scriptures. Once you see these strategies–it’s hard to unsee them.

We had a great conversation I think you’ll enjoy!

Or, as always, you can watch on YouTube:

 

Timeline of the Podcast

0:00 Introduction: Bare Marriage Helpful Playlists 2:05 Introducing Lydia: The Book We’ve Been Waiting For + From IBLP to Seminary 9:49 The 20 Categories of Misleading Tactics 12:55 The Impact Of Misleading Tactics On How The Church Views and Treats Women 16:24 Key Principles To Keep in Mind to Interpret the Bible 24:37 The Eternal Subordination Heresy Debate 32:02 God is Freeing Women and Revival is Happening! 38:32 How Jesus Elevated Women 46:02 Authority in Marriage: What Jesus Actually Said 54:11 The “Head” Debate: What Kephalē Really Means 1:06:10 How Complementarianism Hinders the Gospel 1:11:47 Advice for Those in Complementarian Churches

I love seeing so many people see the truth about egalitarianism!

As Lydia explains on the podcast, she’s theologically conservative, about as conservative as you can get. But when you honestly read the Bible, as we are taught to do, the truth about women is pretty undeniable. And as we see people from all ends of the political and religious spectrum see that Jesus does value women and doesn’t restrict them–we’ll start to see big changes in the church.

Her book is so well done. The Kindle version is available now, and the paperback is coming next month!

Bible Truth about Women

Key Talking Points

  • The Misleading Tactics of Complemntarianism: Lydia identifies 20 categories of misleading tactics many complementarians use, including poor translations, illogical arguments, widely repeated teachings not in the Bible, and cherrypicked verses
  • The Eternal Subordination Heresy: How complementarian teachers created a hierarchy in the Trinity to justify women’s subordination to men, but never retracted it from their books
  • Translation Bias: How Christian lexicons like Strong’s Concordance added “authority” as a meaning for kephalē (head) based on ideology, when secular Greek lexicons list 48 metaphoric meanings—none of them “authority”
  • Jesus’s Revolutionary Treatment of Women: Fresh look at how Jesus elevated women (Samaritan woman as first evangelist, Syrophoenician woman winning a debate with Jesus) contrary to first-century culture
  • Authority in the Kingdom: Jesus explicitly said “Do not exercise authority over each other” – yet complementarianism makes marriage all about authority and submission, creating a terrible witness for nonChristians in the process
  • Ephesians 5 Reframed: How the passage was revolutionary in telling husbands to submit (in a culture where men literally owned wives), but we’ve turned it backwards to emphasize women’s submission instead
  • Gospel Implications: Examples of how complementarianism hinders the gospel, including holding back half the church, driving young women away, enabling abuse, harming missions, and distorting our view of God

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Have you seen any of these misleading tactics? What did you learn today? Let us know in the comments below!

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Sheila Wray Gregoire

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Sheila Wray Gregoire

Author at Bare Marriage

Sheila is determined to help Christians find biblical, healthy, evidence-based help for their marriages. And in doing so, she's turning the evangelical world on its head, challenging many of the toxic teachings, especially in her newest book The Great Sex Rescue. She’s an award-winning author of 8 books and a sought-after speaker. With her humorous, no-nonsense approach, Sheila works with her husband Keith and daughter Rebecca to create podcasts and courses to help couples find true intimacy. Plus she knits. All the time. ENTJ, straight 8

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