Thank you to Zondervan and For the Love of Women for sponsoring this podcast! Have you ever heard people say, "sexism is a thing of the past"? Or maybe been in a conversation where someone has said, "sure, women used to be treated badly, but now it's men who are on...
Toxic marriage advice hurts those in abusive marriages. But it also hurts those in so-called good marriages–because bad advice is just plain bad advice. Here at Bare Marriage we often critique marriage advice that’s given in evangelical circles, showing how that...
with thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post. I remember the first time I heard a fellow Christian defend slavery. I was in my late thirties, and my husband Keith and I had been joking with “John” (who is now a pastor) about...
Sheila here! Our June series on Bare Marriage is all about the four problems that those who believe in hierarchy in marriage say we can encounter. And my husband Keith’s the one writing the series! It’s based on the Danvers Statement, a codified statement of...
Sheila here! Keith’s had something gnawing at him for quite a few months, and asked if he could write the series for June where he can build his case. He’s recently read the Danvers Statement, the statement that solidifies the complementarian view of marriage based on...
Social media is revealing that not all pastors and authors are experts. For several years in a former church we had a pastor who liked asking congregants to come up and give pertinent illustrations in their areas of expertise. So when he was talking about how the eye...
Apologies are wonderful to receive. And to be honest--I had given up hope that I would ever receive any. I've been calling out the harm of toxic teachings in the church for four years now, and asking the church to do what's right. In return, I've often been villified,...
Are there women in the Bible whose stories you've never heard? There likely are! Nijay Gupta opens his new book Tell Her Story with the story of the four African American women featured in the book Hidden Figures, who worked at NASA for the first space flights and...
Why do people hate our research for The Great Sex Rescue so much? Well, really hate our research for everything, including our new book She Deserves Better! Last week, a Twitter storm broke out with me at the center of it. Podcast host Patrick Miller invited Josh...
If we're going to go to church, we want to go to a healthy church. No one sets out to go to a toxic church! But one of the big findings we had in our new book She Deserves Better (the audiobook version went on sale this week!) is that while church attendance is...
Every Young Man’s Battle is the only book I ever reviewed that made me weep. Perhaps it’s because I read it after I had already read a whole bunch of books aimed at teen girls, and it was just the straw that broke the camel’s back. But I think there was a whole other...
Sheila here! Did you know that every Friday we have an email that goes out to 47,000 subscribers? Rebecca tends to write it, and when she took over, she doubled my open rate, because she writes seriously thoughtful and insightful things that you won’t see anywhere...
Do women and men really need different Bibles and Bible studies? Last week on the Bare Marriage podcast, the wonderful Aimee Byrd joined us and told about her experience in a conservative complementarian church trying to learn more about Scripture and theology. That...
What exactly does "purity culture" refer to? Our recent book She Deserves Better spends about half of its pages addressing many aspects of purity culture, that was so common in youth groups between 1995-2015, and shows how it deviated from the gospel and from what we...
We are, quite frankly, gobsmacked. It has been a LONG week for us, doing multiple interviews a day every day for several weeks, and increasing this week for the launch of She Deserves Better. We've had an amazing launch team with 1000 people in it! And when the book...