What if sin isn't the cause of all the bad or counterproductive things we do? And what if blaming it on sin does harm? I wrote this reflection two years ago, and was revisiting it recently and realized it fit in so well with Christmas! Keith and I will talk about...
Modern evangelicals are often closet fundamentalists. They may wear hip clothing, and they may try to sound "cool", but they often look far more like fundamentalists than they do like Jesus. This week on the Bare Marriage podcast (dropping tomorrow), Keith and I are...
Scripture does not say that our goal in life is to be married. If anything, 1 Corinthians 7 says the opposite, that people should remain single if they can. Marriage is nowhere mentioned as the main reason that God created us, and is certainly not mentioned as a...
Does the church prime women to accept objectification? This summer, as I’m taking a month off from blogging, I wanted to take the opportunity to introduce you to some amazing women that I’ve found via Twitter, who have some super insightful things to say. Chief among...
How did gender hierarchy theology become so accepted by so many? I’m taking a month off of the blog to get some much needed downtime, and I thought that this was the perfect opportunity to highlight some amazing women writers that I’ve been interacting with on...
Evangelical materials are often very subpar. A few years ago, after I had written our first series about the problems with the book Love & Respect, a male friend of mine who had led sessions on Love & Respect at an annual men’s conference contacted me. He had...
So much has happened with Focus on the Family this week! We've had an op ed published, and there are signs that Focus is refusing to accept accountability. I wanted to write it all up in one round up post, so here we go! First, Focus on the Family has now deleted over...
What do you actually SAY to people who believe horrible stuff about sex? Everyday when I start sipping my tea and check my inbox or social media messages, I'm inevitably greeted by a message that goes something like this: My church is about to start a small group...
Can you be a leader without being in authority? That’s an interesting question–and it’s one that’s popped up a lot in the comments section on the blog this week! I’d like to give some definitions and some broad discussions of this, and then just post some comments...
Let's talk about how complementarians think marriage can go wrong! This month on the blog Keith's been writing up a series on the Danvers Statement, the codified statement of complementarianism that launched the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and that has...
Sheila here! My husband Keith is here for his final installment this month for his series on the Danvers Statement, that statement that codifies what those who believe in hierarchy in gender relationships believe. It's been an awesome series, and I'm happy to welcome...
How did Power of a Praying Wife Affect You? This week we've been looking at the book Power of a Praying Wife. I summarized the problems with it on Wednesday, and then yesterday on the podcast Sarah McDugal and Gretchen Baskerville joined to talk through it. There has...
What can be wrong with telling wives to pray for their husbands? Absolutely nothing! But when you tell them that the answer to your husband's abuse, addictions, or bad treatment of you is prayer, and that you have to believe those prayers will work in order for the...
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the advice that is given about marriage and sex in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the...
Sheila here! My husband Keith has taken over the blog on Mondays this month for his series on the Danvers Statement, that statement that codifies what those who believe in hierarchy in gender relationships believe. He's been thinking through their quadrant of errors...