What is it that actually kills a marriage? In the Christian world, “lack of commitment” is often named as the culprit that brings a marriage to an end. I don’t agree. Even if you didn’t have commitment, if the marriage was great, why would anyone leave?Sure, every...
If you just have enough faith, and if you just pray enough, then shouldn't God save your marriage? The first women's Bible study I ever went to, I think right around the time Rebecca was born, was for the book Power of a Praying Wife. The book has sold 8,000,000...
What if the evangelical church is diagnosing the problems with marriage WRONG--and so offering the wrong solutions? That's what we've been looking at on the blog all month, and there's lots more to come! Today on the podcast I walk Keith through the highlights of all...
What does it mean to “resolve conflict”? We've been talking so much about sex lately since The Great Sex Rescue launched, and that's been great. But I thought this week I may revisit some of the important things I've written about marriage in general that many of my...
How do you draw boundaries with an emotionally immature/passive aggressive spouse? I thought I was finished with my emotional maturity series, but a wonderful question came in to the blog this week that I thought it was worth running! I was wondering if you knew...
What do you do if your husband is absolutely terrible at buying Christmas presents? Last year, a reader wrote in with this question about her husband who buys terrible gifts: Do I keep enduring terrible Christmas/birthday/Valentine’s Day gifts for the rest of my...
Yesterday we posted an important podcast about the idea that "men need respect and women need love", and that these should be unconditional. It's blown up on Twitter, and I've had so much feedback it's hard to keep track. But a few things have come out of the...
Anger is often a secondary emotion. So we need to ask: What's going on below the surface? We're wrapping up our emotional maturity series with a look at anger. Yesterday I was talking about how anger is like an iceberg; anger is the emotion that we're comfortable with...
Many marriages are plagued by anger, and yelling matches or big angry outbursts. People will often say, "I have a temper problem" or "he has an anger problem." As we finish up our series on emotional maturity, I promised to spend a little bit of time on anger because...
Christian books ask far more of women than they do of men. We learned that pretty quickly when we read the top 15 bestselling Christian sex & marriage books for our upcoming book The Great Sex Rescue. But what they're really doing is assuming that men can never be...
Have you ever experienced stonewalling in your marriage? If you've ever said something like, "He refuses to talk about it," "every time I bring it up he shuts me down," "She walks out of the room if I mention it." "He tells me he won't change and the topic is closed,"...
What if your husband isn’t interested in doing the work to get you to orgasm? What if he’s a selfish lover? We’re in the middle of the our orgasm month, looking at how to help women reach orgasm, all culminating in the launch of The Orgasm Course on Monday (you can...
When we give husbands veto power, do we end up damaging intimacy? Often the best conversations on this blog don’t happen in the posts themselves, but in the comments. And today I wanted to share a comment that came in on one of Keith’s earlier “men’s corner” posts...
What do you do when you don’t want to get pregnant, but your husband doesn’t want birth control? We've been tackling difficult sex questions all month, and here's one I tackled a while ago, but I still get asked quite a bit. I thought it was worth re-running. A woman...
It's the last day of our emotional labor and mental load series! We wrapped up the big teaching points yesterday talking about how important it is that both spouses get down time. And we've tackled a ton of things this month, including what mental load is; how to...