Evangelical men can't get married. And it's all women's fault, according to Al Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. It's a "crisis", a "five-alarm fire". It's bad. In his podcast "The Briefing", he recently did some commentary on a Wall Street...
Women aren't more emotional and men more logical That's the rhetoric that we often hear, but men are just as emotional as women--they just don't necessarily process those emotions as well. Chapters 7 and 8 in our new book The Marriage You Want are all about how to...
Is it fair to compare romance novels to porn? Quite often in comment sections in our posts about porn, or even in pastor's sermons or various websites for single women, the topic of romance novels = porn will be raised. Men will often say, "sure, you call out guys for...
Some people spend their lives fighting injustice. And we need to listen to their stories! You know what's scarier than Hallowe'en? (And happy Hallowe'en today, everyone! Hope you get some candy!). Men high up in denominations who try to cover up child sexual abuse...
What are the potential pitfalls of the sex talk with your kids? Having the sex talk with your kids can be so stressful! It feels awkward. What do you say? But one of the things we also know here at Bare Marriage, after surveying tens of thousands of people over the...
We're not going to end sexual abuse in the church until we confront its causes. It's not just a matter of getting rid of abusers (they have a habit of popping up again in new churches anyway!). It's about figuring out the underlying contributing factors that make...
What if purity culture really did a number on you? We talk a lot here at Bare Marriage about how harmful much of the purity culture rhetoric was: It increased women's chances of marrying an abuser; increased the chances she'd be sexually harassed or assaulted at...
What happens when churches make up a ridiculous stat--and spread it? Ever heard the stat that when fathers come to Christ first, in 93% of families the wife and kids follow, but when wives come to Christ first, it's only 17%? It's been quoted by J.D. Greear when he...
Christian parenting advice is full of toxic teachings we need to ditch! It's not just marriage and sex where a lot of Christian teachings have gone wrong. It's also with parenting. Instead of teaching parents to connect with their kids and discipline in a way that...
It's time to talk about orgasms! We spend a lot of time on the Bare Marriage podcast and blog talking about what's gone WRONG in evangelical teaching. But we also want to teach how to make things go right. Four years ago, after we had finished our research for The...
Not all men are predators. A lot of men are very good guys. But far too many are predators, and over the last 10 days I've been so angry as I've been reading about the criminal trial in France for the sexual assault of Gisele Pelicot (this is horrid to read about, so...
What if you could have therapy--with just a book? And what if that book could help you understand all the therapy terms you hear, like trauma, Stone Age brain, fight and flight, attachment theory, and more? And what if those exercises could actually help you work...
Ever feel like faith and holiness are out of reach? You want to look like Jesus, but you know you need to pray more. Read your Bible more. Do more spiritual disciplines. Volunteer at church more. It's a long list of things you don't get to, and you know God must be...
We're still reeling from our Facebook hack--so we decided to do a Q&A! Last week our Facebook Page was stolen right out from under us. They never hacked my account; they never had my passwords. They got in through our Business Profile, and it seems to be a...
What if evangelical marriage advice actually mimics coercive control? A few months ago I was emailed by Bethany Jantzi when I started talking about The Excellent Wife online. She had just done her dissertation on how The Excellent Wife actually has the same advice and...