Not all men are predators. A lot of men are very good guys. But far too many are predators, and over the last 10 days I've been so angry as I've been reading about the criminal trial in France for the sexual assault of Gisele Pelicot (this is horrid to read about, so...
What if you could have therapy--with just a book? And what if that book could help you understand all the therapy terms you hear, like trauma, Stone Age brain, fight and flight, attachment theory, and more? And what if those exercises could actually help you work...
Ever feel like faith and holiness are out of reach? You want to look like Jesus, but you know you need to pray more. Read your Bible more. Do more spiritual disciplines. Volunteer at church more. It's a long list of things you don't get to, and you know God must be...
Lies Young Women Believe is a dangerous book to use in teen girls' book studies. Yet it is still frequently used! Last season we took a look at Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth's book Lies Women Believe, and showed how it was harmful. Many people then asked us to tackle Lies...
father's day is coming! And it is a day for celebrating all of the wonderful fathers in our lives, and the work that they do and the love that they show for their families. And what a wonderful time to lift them up. We have several wonderful fathers in our family who...
What if purity culture didn’t just steal sexual health from women, but stole it from men too? What does it mean for a man to have healthy sexuality? Today licensed counselor Sam Jolman joins us for The Sex Talk You Never Got. He's got an amazing new book out that...
Let's talk Alpha Males! It's the last podcast of season 7, and we're going to be taking May off of the podcast and the blog so we can finish up edits on our book and take a bit of a vacation. But we thought, for this last podcast of the season, we'd wrap up what we...
Let's get real about Church life! Today we have some special guests on, the lovely ladies from Pastors' Wives Tell All! This is not the first time I've been on a podcast with them, but usually it's theirs. So this time they are joining me on my show to discuss the...
How's purity culture doing one year since She Deserves Better launched? Today we're celebrating one year since our book She Deserves Better hit the market! Based on our survey of 7000 predominantly evangelical women, looking at how their experiences in church circles...
When you've been raised to submit, will you even recognize abuse? With thanks to the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible for sponsoring this podcast! Today on the Bare Marriage podcast, we've got such a compelling interview with Lauren Rose from Called to Peace Ministries. She's...
"So you think it's okay if women just don't have sex, then?" Whenever we talk about how sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and that the obligation sex message is toxic, the reply we get is something along these lines--without obligation,...
Is the honeymoon all about the guy FINALLY getting sex? Nope. But too often evangelicals talk like this--and it has grave consequences. Licensed counselor Jay Stringer sent me a video a few weeks ago that he was really concerned about. SBC Megachurch pastor Josh...
Forgiveness is a concept that has often been weaponized against victims. Whether it's people married to abusers, or people married to someone who has cheated on them or hurt them in some other way, often in the church as long as that person apologizes, the onus is now...
Understanding our stories helps us understand our choices--and make different ones in the future. The last book I read in 2023 was an advanced copy of Natalie Hoffman's new memoir, All the Scary Little Gods. It's absolutely devastating and lovely and completely quirky...
Who is really a complementarian? Just when we think we're finished arguing something, another critique pops up. And honestly--we had SUCH FUN doing this podcast! Keith and I planned it for several days beforehand, going over all the arguments we wanted to use. But it...