Sex must be mutual, about both people’s pleasure. What if he insists on sex that doesn’t bring her pleasure, and doesn’t try to help her reach orgasm?

You guys! Guess what happened! Christianity Today actually covered The Great Sex Rescue--and it was phenomenal! A few weeks ago, just after we recorded the podcast about how the authors we critique have been either ignoring us or doubling down and saying awful things,...
I've got an awesome example of how stats can be misused today! And why it's important when we hear someone who isn't trained in statistics using studies to "prove" their point, when the point sounds like a stretch, to actually check their sources. In February, Dallas...
Just a super quick post today on why "equality" sometimes misses the boat when it comes to sexual pleasure. I use Tuesdays either to take a day off from writing the blog, or to share something super quick that's on my mind and I just want to write it out. I'm hoping...
God does not ask us to consent to selfish sex. In fact, one-sided intercourse is not sex. I can summarize The Great Sex Rescue by saying that sex is supposed to be MUTUAL, INTIMATE, and PLEASURABLE FOR BOTH. That's what God intended. Sex is not merely intercourse...
The most damaging belief we found on our survey of 20,000 women was the obligation sex message. Getting married believing that a wife was obligated to give her husband sex when he wanted it resulted in much higher rates of sexual pain, lower orgasm rates, and lower...
What if sex physically works well--but afterwards you just feel distant from one another? This month on the blog I'm going a "number of the day" series, and I meant to put this post up on Wednesday but the blog was all glitchy that day when we were switching to other...
How do you know when you've done enough foreplay? We're starting a new series on the blog right now, leading up to the release of the Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the TOTALLY REVAMPED AND REWRITTEN Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex on March 15!You can Pre-Order The...
Once again, Focus on the Family is promoting an article that places the blame on you if your spouse cheats. They're advertising an older article on their Facebook page right now where it encourages you to look for "vulnerabilities" in your marriage to see if it's...
Have you ever noticed that when we talk about oral sex in the Christian community, we usually frame it as something he wants and she should give? In that now infamous Edinburgh sermon that went viral, for instance, Mark Driscoll talked about how a woman should...
What do you know about your pelvic floor? During the month of June we're talking about pelvic floor issues. We looked at postpartum recovery, what to expect from a pelvic floor physiotherapist appointment, and the main causes of vaginismus. Today, Bethany Peterson, a...
Why do some women develop vaginismus? In the month of June, I'm concentrating on pelvic floor issues, whether it's with postpartum pain or other sexual pain. I started off this series talking about why the pelvic floor matters, and what can go wrong. Today I want to...
It's June 9, which means it's International Lovemaking Day! (If some of you don't get that, it's 6/9. I feel like some 13-year-old boy giggling at a sexual innuendo, but there you go). Dan Purcell, the creator of the Intimately Us app, was a guest on the podcast last...