This week The Good Guy’s Guide and Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex Turn 2! Two years ago, these two books launched. I wrote the original Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex in 2012, and Zondervan contracted with Keith and me to write a companion guy’s version, to come out...
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Can Sex Feel Great But Leave You Empty?
What if sex physically works well--but afterwards you just feel distant from one another? This month on the blog I'm going a "number of the day" series, and I meant to put this post up on Wednesday but the blog was all glitchy that day when we were switching to other...
71: How Much Foreplay is Enough?
How do you know when you've done enough foreplay? We're starting a new series on the blog right now, leading up to the release of the Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the TOTALLY REVAMPED AND REWRITTEN Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex on March 15!You can Pre-Order The...
Why We Have to Stop Ignoring the Orgasm Gap by Saying Frequency is all that Matters
Once again, Focus on the Family is promoting an article that places the blame on you if your spouse cheats. They're advertising an older article on their Facebook page right now where it encourages you to look for "vulnerabilities" in your marriage to see if it's...
Can We Have a More Balanced Conversation about Oral Sex?
Have you ever noticed that when we talk about oral sex in the Christian community, we usually frame it as something he wants and she should give? In that now infamous Edinburgh sermon that went viral, for instance, Mark Driscoll talked about how a woman should...
Why Exploring Your Pelvic Floor (and Genitalia!) is Crucial to Your Health and Your Sex Life
What do you know about your pelvic floor? During the month of June we're talking about pelvic floor issues. We looked at postpartum recovery, what to expect from a pelvic floor physiotherapist appointment, and the main causes of vaginismus. Today, Bethany Peterson, a...
PELVIC FLOOR SERIES: The 4 Main Causes of Vaginismus
Why do some women develop vaginismus? In the month of June, I'm concentrating on pelvic floor issues, whether it's with postpartum pain or other sexual pain. I started off this series talking about why the pelvic floor matters, and what can go wrong. Today I want to...
8 Ways to Improve Sex for International Lovemaking Day!
It's June 9, which means it's International Lovemaking Day! (If some of you don't get that, it's 6/9. I feel like some 13-year-old boy giggling at a sexual innuendo, but there you go). Dan Purcell, the creator of the Intimately Us app, was a guest on the podcast last...
PELVIC FLOOR SERIES: Why The Pelvic Floor Matters
We're about to embark in June on a series on the pelvic floor! When I first started writing about sex, I had no idea how much the pelvic floor impacted our enjoyment of sex, or even our ability to have sex. I thought of the pelvic floor more like my lungs--they're...
Drumroll Please: The Great Sex Rescue Audiobook is Live!
After months of waiting, you can now get The Great Sex Rescue on audiobook! And it's actually me reading it, too. It took a long time for me to be able to record it, because we were in lockdown for quite a while here in Ontario. We came out of lockdown in March for...
Start Your Engines Podcast: What Has Your WIFE Been Taught about Sex?
Women buy 74% of self-help relationship books. So what have they heard about sex? On the last Thursday of the month I like to direct our podcasts a little bit more at men (though women will still find them interesting!). And in today's Bare Marriage podcast, I'm going...
Stages of Sex Series: Menopause and the Slowing Down Years
What happens to sex in marriage when menopause hits? Or when men's bodies start to slow down and erectile dysfunction becomes more common? On Wednesdays during the month of October I've been talking about the different stages of sex. We talked about: The "Figuring...
How to Be a Generous Lover: Husband’s Edition
How can a man be a generous lover? Last week we talked about what it took for a wife to be a generous lover. And all month we've been looking at what it means for sex to be a mutual experience--where it's meant to be good for both of you, where both of you are the...