What the Toxic Teachings We Measured Have in Common

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 3, 2023 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

There’s a thread that runs through the toxic teachings we’ve measured: Intimacy is a pipe dream. Now that we’ve done surveys with over 29,000 women, we can take a step back and look at the toxic teachings we’ve measured as a whole–the...

Here’s the Data on Why We Need to Stop Calling Girls Stumbling Blocks

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 29, 2023 | Parenting Teens

It’s time to focus on the effects of modesty messages on girls–rather than the effects of girls on boys. For the last few weeks we’ve been talking about modesty rules for teens, on the podcast, on the blog, and on social media.  I often get extremely...

6 Reasons We Should Stop Accusing Girls of Dressing Like Prostitutes

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 27, 2023 | Parenting Teens

When we talk about modesty, I often see commenters saying, “But she’s dressing like a ho.” Whenever the talk comes up about how girls shouldn’t be held responsible for boys’ and men’s thoughts, inevitably someone will say,...

What If All the Men Around You Have Lust Problems?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 24, 2023 | Pornography

Please hear me on this: Not all men have lust problems. In fact, while it may be common, it is not what you’d call “normal”, where we should just expect it to happen, and if guys don’t have lust problems, they’re unusual unicorns. Lust is...

How Did We Think Calling 8-Year-Olds’ Bellies “Intoxicating” Was Okay?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 20, 2023 | Parenting Young Kids

Why did the evangelical church not recognize pedophilic language? Last week on the Bare Marriage podcast we told you about Dannah Gresh’s Secret Keeper Girl curriculum, popular during purity culture, which told 8-12 year-old girls that their bellies were...