A Fun Conversation Starter with Your spouse: A Short Version of Our Survey

by | Feb 16, 2024 | Connecting | 1 comment

Free marriage survey to talk through

Want something to help you have some deep conversations with your spouse?

Keith and I are in the throes of finishing up the first big draft of our marriage book that comes out next spring! It’s due in at the publishers on March 1.

A big part of that book is the results of our marriage survey that we ran in December, and that so many of you took (thank you so much!).

After taking it, we had so many requests to receive a copy so that people could talk it over with their spouse. We kept hearing,

The whole time I was answering this I wanted to talk to my husband about why I answered the way I did, and I wanted to find out how he was answering the same question! I wish we could have seen each other’s answers!

Now, we couldn’t show you each other’s answers because we wanted to preserve anonymity (and that would never have passed ethics approval anyway!).

Plus if you knew your spouse could see your answers, it may affect how you answer.

But now that the marriage survey is over, we want to give the opportunity to talk about it!

You can download it, and, as it’s a long weekend for most North Americans (I’m not sure about the rest of the world!), it’s something you can work through over the weekend. Make a cup of tea or coffee on Sunday afternoon, or curl up in bed on Sunday night, and talk it through!

Get it here:

Download Our Marriage Survey

To Talk Over With Your Spouse!

It’s formatted either to be printed out, or to be read on a computer. You could likely get away with reading it on an iPad, but it’s likely too big to see on a phone. But a computer screen would be fine!

How to Use the Marriage Survey

Option 1: Print it out, take it separately, and talk it over

You could do this all at once, or divide up the survey and do a bit at a time. It is a really LONG survey (we gave you pretty much the whole thing), so it may be hard to do it again in one go!

Option 2: Just talk it through

Find questions that you’re curious about, and just talk about them. Or do a few of the spectrum type questions (how would you rate these parts of our marriage) separately, and talk about them right there and then!


Want some more conversation starters?

Check out our list of 50 conversation starters for couples!

I hope you find this leads to some great conversations!

Have a good weekend!

Written by

Sheila Wray Gregoire


Recent Posts

Want to support our work? You can donate to support our work here:

Good Fruit Faith is an initiative of the Bosko nonprofit. Bosko will provide tax receipts for U.S. donations as the law allows.

Sheila Wray Gregoire

Author at Bare Marriage

Sheila is determined to help Christians find biblical, healthy, evidence-based help for their marriages. And in doing so, she's turning the evangelical world on its head, challenging many of the toxic teachings, especially in her newest book The Great Sex Rescue. She’s an award-winning author of 8 books and a sought-after speaker. With her humorous, no-nonsense approach, Sheila works with her husband Keith and daughter Rebecca to create podcasts and courses to help couples find true intimacy. Plus she knits. All the time. ENTJ, straight 8

Related Posts

The Rose Colored Glasses Effect in Marriage

Could the rose-colored glasses effect be masking marital unhappiness? Last month, one of our podcasts worked through some of the issues with claims that complementarian, conservative women had the best marital outcomes. We also wrote a long opinion piece detailing...


We welcome your comments and want this to be a place for healthy discussion. Comments that are rude, profane, or abusive will not be allowed. Comments that are unrelated to the current post may be deleted. Comments above 300 words in length are let through at the moderator’s discretion and may be shortened to the first 300 words or deleted. By commenting you are agreeing to the terms outlined in our comment and privacy policy, which you can read in full here!

1 Comment

  1. Jess

    It’s not working for me


Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *