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What I’ve Noticed About Scripture in Evangelical vs. Anglican Churches
I've been thinking about the lectionary this Easter holiday. It's still a holiday here in Canada, and I'll be taking most of the day to relax and recuperate from a cold, but I thought I'd write some thoughts I had after all the services at my Anglican church this...
PODCAST: Why Is Every Man’s Battle So Creepy? Plus Benevolent vs. Hostile Sexism
Every Man's Battle Prioritizes Predators over Victims It's horrifying--and you won't understand how bad it is until you see it with your own eyes. We're doing something different for the podcast this week--out of necessity! We've been running behind since I was...
Why Can’t the Every Man’s Battle Authors Acknowledge Sexual Assault Victims? 2 Horrifying Examples
Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker ignore abuse victims in Every Man's Battle. They never talk about the reality of sexual abuse, or acknowledge that a man's lust and sexual behavior can deeply injure women. Instead, they portray the victim when men lust as the man...
NEW RESEARCH: Modesty Messages Groom Boys to Become Predators
Teaching modesty messages makes church more dangerous for teen girls. That's what our newest paper, out in the Journal for the Scientific Study of Religion, shows. It's based on our dataset for our book She Deserves Better, and the lead author on it (Nicole Gallego)...
PODCAST: New Research on Modesty Messages, Sexual Harassment in Church, Plus We Answer Your Questions!
We've got a new research paper on modesty messaging coming out! We've been working behind the scenes on a number of different peer reviewed papers, and we have another one to tell you about today regarding modesty messaging and sexual harassment in church. Plus Keith...
Let’s Dissect the Roots of the Duggars’ Pedophilia
Another Duggar son has been charged with sexually abusing a child. This time it’s Joseph Duggar, the seventh born and third son. (I wrote this piece before news broke that his wife Kendra has also been charged with 4 counts of false imprisonment, among other things....
PODCAST: Adult ADHD, Marriage, and Gender Roles!
Let’s talk ADHD and marriage! What does it mean to have realistic expectations of a spouse with ADHD? How does gender play into how ADHD impacts a relationship? And what do accommodations actually look like—versus what do they *not* look like in a healthy marriage? In...
Why Complementarianism Isn’t Actually About Men Really Leading
I've seen so many social media complementarian messages telling women to take the initiative to fix things. One particular one accused women of pride if they saw a problem in the relationship, but then thought: "he's the leader, go fix it." Women were told to take the...
Who Is the Real Victim When Men Lust? Every Man’s Battle Says It’s Men!
Why is lust a sin? That may seem like a silly question, because it's obvious, right? It's LUST. And lust is bad. But seriously--what, specifically, is bad about it? I think that answer really matters, because part of the reason the "all men struggle with lust; it's...
PODCAST: Did Purity Culture Cause Developmental Trauma?
Why do evangelical women see sex as a chore? We're doing a fun podcast today where I'm combining a whole bunch of different things that I've been wanting to talk about, and putting them together so that they tell a consistent story. At least that's the plan! We're...