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What Does the Defence of Slavery Have to Do with Complementarianism?
with thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post. I remember the first time I heard a fellow Christian defend slavery. I was in my late thirties, and my husband Keith and I had been joking with “John” (who is now a pastor) about...
PODCAST: The 4 Types of Euphemisms With Sex That Drive Us Batty
Euphemisms about sex just make everything more difficult. And we want Christian pastors and authors to stop using them! And thank you to Zondervan and Dorothy Greco's For the Love of Women for sponsoring this podcast! Today's got some funny moments, but also likely...
Are You Feminine Enough for Your Uber Driver?
Women, are you helping the men around you be men? Last Friday, in our Round-Up video, Rebecca and I analyzed a new Desiring God article that was asking women to help men become better men. It was a pretty epic Friday round-up, and Rebecca wrote about it later in...
2-Step Plan to Tell if an Author or Pastor Is Qualified to Give Advice
We have a plague in the evangelical church of unqualified people giving dangerous advice. In our original study for The Great Sex Rescue (we’ve since conducted three more!), we identified four main teachings that do great harm--teachings which are not biblical, but...
PODCAST: Celebrating Episode 300 with The Best of Becca!
I can't believe we're 300 episodes in to Bare Marriage! We began the podcast in January of 2019, and for the first dozen or so episodes it was just me. We actually started two weeks before that fateful day that I read Love & Respect and changed the entire focus of...
Are We Heading for a New Reformation?
There's a deep rumbling in the evangelical church right now. I've been saying for the last few years that God is shaking the church--and I'm feeling that profoundly. Whenever I come to the end of a big project, and start something new, I get a little introspective and...
The 5-Point Faulty Foundation of Most Christian Marriage Books
In 2019 I started critiquing Christian marriage books. Until then, I had been writing and speaking in evangelical spaces, but I hadn’t read a lot of Christian marriage books. I figured, they love Jesus, I love Jesus, we’re all saying the same thing! But in January of...
PODCAST: What does the Bible Say about Divorce for Abuse? feat. Helen Paynter
Does the Bible say divorce for abuse is okay? Lots of churches, and denominations, say no. You can only divorce for adultery, they say. But is that true? I've been wanting to do this podcast for a long time, and was prompted again when Naghmeh Panahi (who has also...
How Birthday Party Lady Is Showing the World Boundaries in Marriage
Don't let people use your house for a birthday party without telling your spouse. That's a pretty good rule for life! And right now, over on Threads, thousands upon thousands of people worldwide have been invested in Birthday Party Lady's story of how she held her...
Making Patriarchy Pretty: How Christian Social Media Sells Patriarchy
The medium is the message. And when it comes to Christian patriarchy, the medium is super pretty right now! Marshall McLuhan, a Canadian sociologist, said that famous “medium is the message” line sixty years ago now. He was explaining how the medium that we hear a...