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When You Realize Grief Has a Mind of its Own
I startled awake this morning, mid-dream, at 4 a.m., like I do most August 6ths. Because 29 years ago my water broke at 4 a.m. My son would have turned 29 today. The body remembers. I never know what I'm going to write about on his birthday. I usually leave it...
4 Things the “Spanking Our Daughter Is Hilarious” Controversy Tells Us about Evangelical Influencer Advice Culture
Evangelical influencer culture appears to be very pro-spanking I want to share a story today that I think has deep implications for our work here at Bare Marriage. Earlier in July, Madison Prewett and her husband Grant Troutt shared on their podcast about their plans...
PODCAST: How Fiction Makes You a Better Person (And Why We Don’t Hate All Books!)
We don't hate books! In fact, we love them! And over the last few years the younger members of my team have gotten REALLY into fiction. Today they're going to tell you why, and share why fiction should be a part of your life--and your kids' lives! Plus you get to meet...
PODCAST: Is Sex a Want or a Need?
Is it fair to call sex a need? We're very much against obligation sex here at Bare Marriage--we've done research that has shown that the obligation sex message results in far worse marital and sexual outcomes, and contributes to abuse rates. But at the same time, is...
PODCAST: What is Headship in Ephesians 5 and 1 Corinthians 11? Feat. Marg Mowczko
What is "headship"? The headship doctrine says that because man is the head of the wife, then God made men to be in authority over women in marriage, and often in church too. But this assumes that the Greek word for head actually means authority. What if it doesn't?...
PODCAST: Our Best Christian Dating Advice–You Asked and We Answered!
Let's talk about dating and finding a mate! This is the subject that Rebecca and I tend to avoid like the plague, because we feel very ill-equipped to talk on it. We both married very young; we didn't spend a lot of time single; and to make it sound like we understand...
PODCAST: Are Soul ties Real? And is the Purity Culture Belief Harmful or Helpful?
The iea of soul ties was commonly taught in purity culture. Basically, it boils down to the thought that when you have sex with someone, your souls are joined in the spiritual realm. If you have sex with someone that's not your spouse, then, part of you will always be...
What Difference Have We Made This Year?
We're hear to change the conversation about sex and marriage in the evangelical church. And in the wider church too! We want to make it something healthy, evidence-based, and biblical (by which we mean Jesus-centered). And sometimes it's good to pause and ask, "are we...
Eve in Exile by Rebekah Merkle: The Onesheets Spread!
Doug Wilson's daughter Rebekah Merkle peddles patriarchy in Eve in Exile And not just patriarchy, but downright misogyny.I haven't taken a look at her books yet, because we have a system for choosing which books we look at based on Amazon sales rankings, and we...
PODCAST: The Problems with His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley
Let's talk about His Needs, Her Needs! Today, for episode 284, we're joined by Bethany Jantzi and Ngina Otiende, who took one for the team and read Willard Harley's book His Needs, Her Needs. Interestingly, he's updated it a LOT since the Great Sex Rescue was...