Are evangelical women hesitant to marry evangelical men? Rebecca and I talked about this on a podcast recently, but I’ve had so many emails since that I wanted to make sure we had this written out on the blog too! Plus I wanted to include a bunch of your comments! (I...
What impact does our new book The Marriage You Want have on people? I was recently tagged in a post on Substack by Joy LaPrade, a woman I've met on social media whom I first encountered through her interview on the podcast Bodies Behind the Bus. She shared how our...
With thanks to Zondervan and Saving Face for sponsoring this post When I was seven years old I used to go on walks with Jesus. I was the only child of a single mother, and I was often quite lonely. But I took Jesus at His word when He said, “I have called you friend.”...
Have you ever felt like God is punishing you, and your sex life in marriage, because of sexual sin before marriage? (I was going to run a post today where people could get our pre-order bonuses for The Great Sex Rescue. It's coming tomorrow! Just some last minute...
If your marriage is broken, and you feel distant, and you're reeling from heartache, can God restore it? I think it's one of God's favourite things to do! But I also think this question has a lot of nuance to it, and I was thinking about it this week as I've been on...
If you’ve been promiscuous in the past, is your future marriage doomed? We're in the middle of our Sex Questions You Can't Ask Your Pastor series this month, and this week we've been focusing on newlywed sex questions--including our newlywed sex question podcast! I...
What does 1 Corinthians 7:9--"it is better to marry than to burn with passion"--mean? I was blown away by the comments last Friday when we were talking about the gatekeeping phenomenon that many women feel, when we think that the boy is the accelerator when it comes...
The Act of Marriage is the book I once drowned in a bathtub. When I wrote The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex, I told the story of reading a sex book before I was married that turned me into a nervous wreck. It gave such explicit directions about what you were supposed...
What happens if we tell women that husbands are entitled to sex--no matter what? I'm a big proponent of sex in marriage. Most of what I write is about sex. I have a revamped version of 31 Days to Great Sex coming out this summer with Zondervan. I've created a course...
It was the first time I’d heard of the term, “heavy petting,” among other things. Some friends had let my sisters borrow a book. It was a Christian book about sex, and honestly, though I devoured it from cover to cover, I don’t remember much, if anything, about the...
Focus on the Family initially had its logo on the book Love & Respect, and heavily markets it through their website and emails, often giving it as a freebie to people who donate. As I have talked about at length on this blog, I have grave concerns about the book....
Christian marriage books should not harm people. That seems to me to be a no-brainer, but often in discussions about books that I believe spread a toxic teaching, people will say something like:Well, I got a lot of out of it. I didn't agree with all of it, and I can...
Are you becoming codependent with your children? Do you have unhealthy emotional bonds with your parents? This month we've been talking about the concept of "soul ties", which was preached a lot in Christian circles in the 1980s and 1990s, but which I don't think are...
Can you get over a broken heart? Can you heal from the hurt of past relationships? This month on Wednesdays we're talking about the idea of "soul ties". I started by talking about what that phrase means, and then last week I asked the question, "Does having sex cause...
Sometimes marriage counselling goes very, very badly--especially if it's focused on making sure women don't sin against their husbands, rather than focused on building oneness and intimacy. Allow me to tell a story that unfolded last week and took a ton of my...