What's Wrong with Vanilla Sex? Valentine's Day is coming up just around the corner, and that means that we're going to start to see lots and lots of articles about how to have hot sex. They will be on magazines. They will be in Christian media. How can you have the...
We need to deal with our double standards of sexual expectations in marriage. This month we're looking at entitlement in marriage, and how the entitlement mentality can kill a marriage. One of the things we were talking about last week was that reasonable expectations...
We all want amazing lives filled with joy and passion and wholeness. Who wouldn't want that? But too often that is not what people experience. I've been sitting in my yellow chair trying to write the final post for our "digging yourself out of the pit" series, and...
When we're trying to get out of the pit our sex life is in--sometimes we're the one who needs to grab the ladder. We're near the end of our series on getting our sex life out of the pit that one--or both--of us have dug for ourselves. Often the issues are...
Were you ever told as a teen that if you have sex with someone, you will bond with them? That if you have sex you will feel so bonded that it will be hard to ever bond with anyone else again? And that when we have sex, we release the bonding hormone oxytocin? What...
If we want sex to be awesome, then we need to be able to feel like sex is for us too. We need to feel like we matter. Sex is supposed to be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and mutuality and intimacy means that you are both coming to the bedroom willingly,...
It's the podcast where we redefine sex--and talk about how it's about more than the penis! Today on the podcast I'm introducing the series we've been going through this month on the blog--how to recover when one of you, or both of you, have dug your sex life into a...
Safety is a prerequisite to intimacy in a marriage. If she feels as if she has to earn safety sexually, with her body, she’ll never have real intimacy.
When your sex life has evaporated, how do you recover? Here’s a 4-point plan to sexual recovery, emphasizing redefining sex and safety.
If we don't put sex in its proper place, sex will become a drain on the relationship, rather than something that makes you feel closer. We're working this month on how to dig out of the pit you're in with your sex life, because many people have such deep and serious...
How do you dig out of a pit you’ve dug for your sex life in marriage? A 4 point plan to rebuild sex, starting with reframing sex & making everyone feel safe.
What if the key to a great sex life was connection, not acrobatics? How the best sexual fulfillment is from intimacy not adventurousness.
What happens when pastors give sex advice, but they aren't trained to do so? This week's podcast we're talking about a big question: is it ever useful to expect pastors to give specific sex advice? What is a part of the pastor's job, and what simply isn't? If you want...
One of the big things I believe is that we should hold Christians to higher standards than those who do not claim Christ. We don't get to say, "well, I don't have to follow the rules because after all, I'm doing this for Jesus." We don't get to say, "because I'm...
If we want great sex...we may need to look OUTSIDE the bedroom for answers! Here's a stat that I shared on social media last night about the correlation between arousal and emotional connection:It's just one stat in a bigger chart in The Great Sex Rescue--which has...