One of the most common pieces of marriage advice you’ll hear in evangelical circles is “your husband comes before the kids.” It’s constant, and we’re always reminded that one day the kids will leave home, but your husband will still be there. He needs to be the...
Will we ever hear an apology from Dannah Gresh and others? We're wrapping up our 3-episode arc on the Bare Marriage podcast this week, looking at how purity culture authors (and others!) are trying to rewrite history to make it seem as if they didn't say the harmful...
We had four lawsuit threats the week that The Great Sex Rescue was published. Authors were upset that we had quoted their works and showed them in a bad light. Our publisher pretty quickly talked them down (after all, you can’t sue someone for quoting your exact...
Many of us are starting from scratch with parenting. We were raised in James Dobson, authoritarian type households, and we know we don't want that for our children. But we also look around at so many of the parenting trends today, and it seems as if there aren't any...
Teaching modesty messages makes church more dangerous for teen girls. That's what our newest paper, out in the Journal for the Scientific Study of Religion, shows. It's based on our dataset for our book She Deserves Better, and the lead author on it (Nicole Gallego)...
We've got a new research paper on modesty messaging coming out! We've been working behind the scenes on a number of different peer reviewed papers, and we have another one to tell you about today regarding modesty messaging and sexual harassment in church. Plus Keith...
What if purity culture taught you to shrink? And you did--literally? I read Anna Rollins' book Famished lately, and I was so enthralled by her story (and her writing). She was describing what it was like growing up in purity culture, and how all the stress and rules...
It's like The Great Sex Rescue, but for parenting books! I'm so grateful that Marissa Burt and Kelsey McGinnis wrote this book, The Myth of Good Christian Parenting--so that I don't have to! I love how there's a community of people doing similar work in all aspects of...
We want our kids to grow up with healthy views of sexuality. We certainly don't want them to end up with the hangups that many of their millennial/Gen x parents had because of purity culture. But sometimes we can end up going too far in the other direction, and...
The world our kids inhabit changes about every eight years now. With tech and culture changes, the world is speeding ahead as it never has before, and the world our kids are living in is very, very different from the one you grew up in. We're living in different...
We need to have an awkward conversation about an awkward conversation. Kids need to know about sex. And they need to know about it from you. That doesn't mean that you have to do anything perfectly, or that it's not allowed to be awkward. It just means it has to...
What happens when we tell girls that “boys will want to push your sexual boundaries”? That's one of the toxic teachings that we measured in both our books The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! If you haven't read them yet, you should! This week we're...
Evangelical influencer culture appears to be very pro-spanking I want to share a story today that I think has deep implications for our work here at Bare Marriage. Earlier in July, Madison Prewett and her husband Grant Troutt shared on their podcast about their plans...
Is being a good wife in conflict with being a good mom? And what does it look like to prioritize your marriage? Episode 270 of Bare Marriage!
Last Sunday, a disturbing video went viral of a teen girl apologizing for being pregnant in front of her church. It was an Apostolic church in Virginia. After her confession. The congregation applauded, but then the pastor got up and chastised them, saying that no one...