What if our advice actually triggers the behaviour we want to prevent? One of my favourite places on the internet is our private Patreon Facebook group, where the people who support us financially hang out. For just $5 a month people can join our Patreon group, and in...
Let's use a real-life example of purity culture double standards: Brio Magazine Yesterday on the podcast Rebecca and I read excerpts from old copies of Focus on the Family's Brio magazine, aimed at teen girls 12-16. We wanted you to hear first hand what purity culture...
It's our 200th episode! And we wanted to celebrate by doing something that matters to Rebecca--and to so many of you. We wanted to read some back issues of Brio Magazine, the magazine for preteen and teen girls published by Focus on the Family that encapsulated purity...
Plus please see our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit for handy downloads about the effects of obligation sex that you can give to your pastor, counselor, small group leader–anyone who teaches it!
And see chapters 9 and 10 in The Great Sex Rescue for all our charts, stats, and commentary!
And please check out The Great Sex Rescue, and our Orgasm Course if that’s been an issue for you!
Looking at the 4 ways those who believe in hierarchy in marriage think marriage can go wrong
Plus see the book Keith co-authored with Sheila, The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex!
And please check out our book The Great Sex Rescue about all the ways that evangelicalism has given the wrong diagnosis about sex!
In She Deserves Better, we include headings listing what girls deserve to know. And they're dynamite! It's now one week since She Deserves Better has launched! It's been a wild week, and we're so excited with how well the book is selling. We've had even more requests...
She Deserves Better is officially launched, and we're doing so well! It's selling really, really well (we woke up to #140 on Amazon, which is INCREDIBLE), My mind is going in a million different directions this morning, and I'm elated, and I'm happy, and I'm actually...
Come celebrate with me! Because today She Deserves Better launches! After two very long years, She Deserves Better is here! And it's selling so well (thank you all so much!), and we're all so, so excited to see how this will actually change the church--and set people...
Have we been selling our daughters an incomplete gospel? Let's do a thought experiment for a minute. Imagine everything you've been told the gospel is--about how Jesus saves, and what that means. Now imagine that you're actually Jesus (if that isn't too sacreligious...
I'm supposed to be at the zoo today. My cousin and her daughter are visiting from out of town, and I cleared the calendar today so that I would be free to go the zoo. Rebecca and Connor and the kids and Keith were all available, and it was going to be a big family...
We had an amazing Theology in the Raw podcast with Preston Sprinkle. It dropped on Thursday, but I'd like to tell you about it, because we've never had this opportunity before to answer (friendly!) pushback about our views on modesty and consent. We were on the...
I read a story about how a youth group culture contributed to a young woman feeling guilty about her own assaults. I'd like to share it today, because it fits in to everything we've been talking about with She Deserves Better, our new book that launches April 18 (and...
It's time to focus on the effects of modesty messages on girls--rather than the effects of girls on boys. For the last few weeks we've been talking about modesty rules for teens, on the podcast, on the blog, and on social media. I often get extremely frustrated...
When we talk about modesty, I often see commenters saying, "But she's dressing like a ho." Whenever the talk comes up about how girls shouldn't be held responsible for boys' and men's thoughts, inevitably someone will say, "What about all the girls coming into church...
Why did the evangelical church not recognize pedophilic language? Last week on the Bare Marriage podcast we told you about Dannah Gresh's Secret Keeper Girl curriculum, popular during purity culture, which told 8-12 year-old girls that their bellies were...
Do boys have to fight constantly not to picture girls naked? Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast (episode 183) we walked you through some of the problems that we discovered with the modesty messages that were given to girls as teens, especially during the purity...
How does hearing modesty messages as a teen affect you as an adult? We're working through another big chapter in our new book She Deserves Better today! For She Deserves Better, we surveyed 7000+ women to learn how their experiences as teens in church affect them...