Shame from our preteen introduction to sex is horrible. None of us wants shame about sex or about puberty, but a lot of us are carrying it. And how can we make sure we don't pass it on to our kids? One of the big messages at Bare Marriage is that it is possible to...
All the Latest from "Family"
Older posts from "Family"
When Modesty Rules Make Drowning More Likely
Swimming in regular clothing increases the risk of drowning. Seriously–it’s not safe. Both my daughters were lifeguards as teens, and I still remember the training exercises they had to do when they jumped into the pool in normal clothing and then had to rescue...
Does Our Theology Let Girls Say No to Boys?
Are girls allowed to say a firm no to a boy? That seems like a ridiculous question, doesn’t it? Of course girls are allowed! But back up the truck, because this doesn’t seem to be what’s being taught to girls in evangelical circles, and I want to explore today WHY...
What If Toxic Teachings Hadn’t Shaped Your Faith?
I grew up believing God was chronically disappointed in me. I knew He loved me, absolutely. But I also pictured God kind of like a self-help magazine cover: 7 Ways You Could be More Disciplined; 4 Ways You Could Be Getting More Things Done; 3 Ways You Could Stop...
The Problems with Lies Young Women Believe: With One Sheet Download
One of the things we're passionate about on this blog is making sure the self-help and relationship advice in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed over 32,000 people, measuring how certain teachings common in the evangelical...
PODCAST: The Problems with the Book LIes Young Women Believe
Lies Young Women Believe is a dangerous book to use in teen girls' book studies. Yet it is still frequently used! Last season we took a look at Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth's book Lies Women Believe, and showed how it was harmful. Many people then asked us to tackle Lies...
My Response to the Harrison Butker Commencement Speech
I’ve been asked what I thought of Harrison Butker’s commencement speech, and here goes! So many people, while I was on vacation, sent me that commencement speech that I know you’ve seen. Harrison Butker, kicker for the Kansas City Chiefs,, was invited to give the...
Why Equality Is a Huge foundation of Danish “Hygge” (Happiness)
What if equality is a prerequisite to happiness? I started this week, as I'm back from vacation, talking about the Danish concept of "hygge", or coziness and hominess. It's one of the reasons that Danes are consistently among the most happy nations on earth (and...
A “Hygge” Marriage: What the Danes Can Teach Us about Happiness in Marriage
The Danes can teach us a lot about how to be happy in marriage! I am back from three weeks offline (which was amazing, and which I desperately needed), and during that time my mother and my husband and I took a cruise of Northern Europe, spending time in Denmark and...
PODCAST: Pastors’ Wives Spill the Tea on Church Life
Let's get real about Church life! Today we have some special guests on, the lovely ladies from Pastors' Wives Tell All! This is not the first time I've been on a podcast with them, but usually it's theirs. So this time they are joining me on my show to discuss the...
Fact Checked It: Are Teen Girls Asexual?
Do teen girls have a sex drive? I’m desperately hoping that you answer, “Of course!” Now, obviously not all teen girls will be sexual (asexuals do make up a small part of the population). But the idea that teen girls are somehow not sexual, while teen boys are...
The WORST Reason Not to Divorce Your Wife
Sheila here! Every Friday, our email goes out to about 45,000 people, and Rebecca writes it, not me. And it's usually just awesome. Last week's email was special, coming at the end of a big week where we had lots of engagement around our podcast on the pathetic way...
Why Do We Ask Women to Choose Between Being a Good Wife or a Good Mom?
Why are we asking women to choose between being a wife and being a mom? One of the themes that pops up often in evangelical marriage literature is warnings to women not to be a mom first and a wife second. It's in almost all of Gary Thomas' books. I used to teach it!...