Do boys have to fight constantly not to picture girls naked? Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast (episode 183) we walked you through some of the problems that we discovered with the modesty messages that were given to girls as teens, especially during the purity...
How does hearing modesty messages as a teen affect you as an adult? We're working through another big chapter in our new book She Deserves Better today! For She Deserves Better, we surveyed 7000+ women to learn how their experiences as teens in church affect them...
In his book Grace-Filled Marriage, Tim Kimmel blames a girl for her own rape.TRIGGER WARNING: Discussions of rape as a teen in the rest of this article.I thought today, for International Women's Day, I'd like to look at what Kimmel said, but especially at all the...
Did you know that 45,000 receive an email from me every Friday with a round-up of things from the blog and social media that week? To make sure you don't miss anything? And that email is usually written by Rebecca, with an extra insight or thought into where the...
So the wet towels anecdote from Love & Respect has gone big on social media this week. And I wanted to share it with you! As some of you may remember, I've been appalled at what Emerson Eggerichs said in his book Love & Respect (again, the most used marriage...
What if aging parents need help, but only one child lives near them? This week I’ve been rerunning a series I did a few years ago about caring for aging parents. I originally started the conversation by accident, with a little bit of a rant on 3 things parents should...
How do you set boundaries on how much help you can reasonably give to aging parents? This week I'm re-running a series I wrote a few years ago. We started yesterday talking about how parents should really try to help their adult children who will be caring for them...
If you need your adult children to eventually care for you, then that should factor into an equation NOW. I've been thinking about something for a while now that I'd like to just say. It's going to be a bit of a rant, and I may not sound very sympathetic. But I think...
Keith and I have been in the RV for a week and I have made a significant discovery! First, though, I'm not going to have a normal post up today. I'm in vacation mode and couldn't think of anything about marriage to write about. Rebecca, however, has already written...
On the a vacation we took just over a decade ago, I started knitting a blanket. It was what knitters call a "sock yarn blanket", meaning that it's made from all the ends of balls you have after you've finished a pair of socks. For twenty years I've been knitting...
The harm from spanking doesn't always come from the spanking being done in anger, or by terrible parents. Sometimes the harm comes from good parents who spanked "in love", exactly how the church taught them to. When I wrote about the harms from spanking a few weeks...
Can we talk about something hush hush? What if spanking kids is also a form of sexual assault? Hear me out on this one, okay? I've shared a number of social media posts and podcasts about spanking lately, including what the large meta-analysis of 160,000 children...
Do marriages need someone to be in charge? And what does it mean if you assume that they do? Last week Alistair Begg, a big speaker and theologian, posted this on social media:I could say so much about what's theologically wrong with this statement, but I'd encourage...
We know that parenting is the biggest responsibility we will ever have. But we've been told such different things about the nature of that responsibility. If you grew up in an evangelical church, chances are you were told that a parent's job is to teach them to obey,...
If you know you have an unhealthy attachment style, how can you grow and change? It's the last day in May, and so I want to wrap up our posts about attachment styles. I'm so glad so many of you have found this concept helpful; it's really changed how I see the main...