I am so grateful to all of you who show up in this community, engage on this blog and on social media. I’m so grateful to those of you who listen to the podcast, send me messages, and let me know we’re making a difference! And I know that so many of you have said that...
This has been a strange week on the blog and social media, with a bunch of new male commenters flooding this space complaining about women. The complaints were prompted by two things: our continued discussion about the Psychology Today article and the fact that women...
What if there's something super simple you could do that could improve your mood and your marriage? I talked on Monday about rhythms in our lives--how to honor our bodies' rhythms, with the need for work and rest; for feasting and fasting. And I thought today we could...
Have you ever had dreams that didn't come true? We're right at the cusp of fall, when people are making plans for the year ahead, and looking back over the year that has past. We want to do it better this year. We want to be more organized. We want to finally make...
Is it fair for husbands to just say, "Give me a list of what you want done and I'll do it?" It's Keith here today; welcome back to Men’s Corner! It has been interesting to watch people wrestle with the concept of mental load over the month. The fact that in the...
The "daily grind" tasks are the ones that often build the most resentment in a marriage. We're in the middle of our series about mental load in marriage and sharing the emotional labor. We talked first about what those terms mean, and then showed how the book Fair...
When a husband has a great idea for a family outing, why does the wife often get defensive, upset, or touchy about it? We've been talking about emotional labor and mental load all month in June, and many women have said that their husbands just don't understand the...
Who does the emotional labor of keeping relationships with extended family close? We've been talking this month in our series about the work of emotional labor, and how that can contribute to women's mental load--that feeling that we're carrying all the details of the...
When we're trying to divide up the mental load, one of the problems we run into is agreeing on what actually needs to be done. This month we're looking at emotional labor and mental load, and we started our series last week talking about the problem of mental load and...
Mental load and emotional labor make women exhausted. We're starting our mental load and marriage series today, where every Monday in the month of June (as well as a bunch of podcasts and some extra posts) we'll be focusing on how to balance the mental load and grow a...
This is a story about why we don't have a podcast up today, but we still do have a dog. For those of you who have not seen him on the blog yet, meet Winston, the 5 pound yorkshire terrier: Winston is a rescue dog, adopted by Becca...
How do you make friends at a new church? We've been talking about building community here on the blog in March, and one of the big questions that came out last week in our initial post on church community was how to break into a church that seems cliquey. So today I...
You can be in a huge group of people, even a busy group of people, and not have any community. You may go to a huge church, and know a ton of people. You may even be active in that church. But if, in that group of people, you don't have anyone that you can call in a...
Last year I learned the term "habit stacking", and it has changed my life immensely. As we're at the beginning of a new year, it's a natural time to reflect on what's working in your life and what's not. Often in January we feel overwhelmed and angry at ourselves--I'm...
In my life, I have had several pivotal years that set me on a different trajectory--defining years that changed everything. Obviously I could say 1995 and 1997 were such years, when my daughters were born. But I want more to talk about years when my goals and thinking...