What is it that actually kills a marriage? In the Christian world, “lack of commitment” is often named as the culprit that brings a marriage to an end. I don’t agree. Even if you didn’t have commitment, if the marriage was great, why would anyone leave?Sure, every...
If you just have enough faith, and if you just pray enough, then shouldn't God save your marriage? The first women's Bible study I ever went to, I think right around the time Rebecca was born, was for the book Power of a Praying Wife. The book has sold 8,000,000...
What if the evangelical church is diagnosing the problems with marriage WRONG--and so offering the wrong solutions? That's what we've been looking at on the blog all month, and there's lots more to come! Today on the podcast I walk Keith through the highlights of all...
How do you ACTUALLY confront your spouse when something's bugging you? We're in the middle of our iron sharpening iron series on the blog this month, where I'm talking about how marriage is supposed to make us better people. We're supposed to grow. Yet too often...
If you think there's something wrong in your marriage, or you feel hurt or distant from your spouse, is it okay to confront your spouse and bring it up? That may seem like an odd question, but hear me out on this. I'm in the middle of our "iron sharpens iron" marriage...
Maybe being a wife is about fighting FOR your husband, not just being nice to your husband. I want to share a story that was shared on this blog this week, but before I do that, I want to tell you about a conversation my husband Keith and I had over Christmas. I...
Are you using your influence in marriage so that iron is sharpening iron? We're starting our January series on the blog, and I'm really excited about it! We're talking about how marriage is supposed to help us grow to be better people, and I introduced this yesterday...
Keith has made me a better person because I am married to him. First, there's the little things. I notice that when I'm alone for several days, for instance, I tend to cocoon and just do whatever I want, which tends to consist of a lot of time wasters. When he's here,...
What do you do if your husband smokes, and you hate it, and you want him to quit? On Mondays I try to post reader questions and take a stab at answering them, and here's one on a subject that a number of people have sent in. One woman writes:My husband works long...
There is no one-size-fits-all for dealing with marriage problems, because not all marriage problems are alike. This month, our Wednesday series is all about reducing stress in marriage and getting to the root of what's really bothering you. Last week we talked about...
What does "If you give a mouse a cookie" have to do with stress in marriage? In today's podcast, I tell you just that! I hope you all will listen, but if you don't have time, I'll have some links and rabbit trails below so you can read all you want as well! And...
If I asked, "what is causing stress in your marriage?", what would you say? Most people would rhyme off typical marriage problems--he doesn't understand me; he doesn't spend enough time with me; she's not having sex with me enough; we're not connecting. And all of...
What do you do if your husband is a racist, and his beliefs cause rifts in your family? I've got a bit of a heavy reader question today! It's Canada Day here, but I'm going to publish a post today and then take Thursday & Friday off for the July 4 weekend, since...
Summer is here, and many of us are heading to the beach! But what do you do if the beach is a minefield because your husband checks out other women? Some women have written in having this problem. Here's one woman who says that whenever they're in public (even at the...
Why are you feeling distant in your marriage? What if asking "why" five times in a row, based on the answers you were given, could reveal the root problem? Lately I've been critiquing the way that some churches do marriage counseling. I want to get away from the...