How do you actually measure the "good fruit" of marriage teaching? Over the last little while, we've been criticized for saying that it's good fruit if marriages are happy, while ignoring the more important things like whether people are obeying Christ. That's...
Dannah Gresh is Rewriting And the Bride Wore White. But is she apologizing for all the harmful things she wrote before? Is she acknowledging that she told 8-year-old's that their bellies are "intoxicating", which she defined as making adult men "out of control"? Is...
Let's react to pastors, influencers, and more! One of the things that we like to do periodically is play some of the horrid reels that get sent to us and react to them. Yes, the reels are interesting and there's lots of commentary to be made. But one of the biggest...
I think the #1 request I get is about menopause! Whenever I ask on social media what people would like me to talk about for podcasts, the two biggest issues are how to find a decent husband--and what perimenopause and menopause are like. And menopause squeaks by the...
Do you find reading the Bible off-putting sometimes? Has the Bible been used as a weapon against you, rather than as a tool for healing? And when you read the Bible, you just feel, well, upset? Maybe that's because the evangelical church's approach to the Bible has...
What is healthy masculinity? And what do men need to understand about healthy marriage? A lot of my listeners may not know this, but I likely appear on twice as many OTHER PEOPLE'S podcasts as I do my own. I do a lot of interviews, and those interviews are quite...
I love Professor Neil's videos. Professor Neil is a professor of English literature at Cambrian College in Sudbury, Ontario, but he's best known for his TikTok and Instagram channels where he "stitches" videos from people who have said horriby misogynistic things,...
What if complementarianism is authoritarianism in disguise? One of the questions that haunts us here at Bare Marriage, that we're always trying to understand and strategize about, is how do we reach people who are still knee-deep in toxic teachings in their churches?...
We don't hate books! In fact, we love them! And over the last few years the younger members of my team have gotten REALLY into fiction. Today they're going to tell you why, and share why fiction should be a part of your life--and your kids' lives! Plus you get to meet...
Is it fair to call sex a need? We're very much against obligation sex here at Bare Marriage--we've done research that has shown that the obligation sex message results in far worse marital and sexual outcomes, and contributes to abuse rates. But at the same time, is...
What is "headship"? The headship doctrine says that because man is the head of the wife, then God made men to be in authority over women in marriage, and often in church too. But this assumes that the Greek word for head actually means authority. What if it doesn't?...
Let's talk about dating and finding a mate! This is the subject that Rebecca and I tend to avoid like the plague, because we feel very ill-equipped to talk on it. We both married very young; we didn't spend a lot of time single; and to make it sound like we understand...
The iea of soul ties was commonly taught in purity culture. Basically, it boils down to the thought that when you have sex with someone, your souls are joined in the spiritual realm. If you have sex with someone that's not your spouse, then, part of you will always be...
Let's talk about His Needs, Her Needs! Today, for episode 284, we're joined by Bethany Jantzi and Ngina Otiende, who took one for the team and read Willard Harley's book His Needs, Her Needs. Interestingly, he's updated it a LOT since the Great Sex Rescue was...
Is the Evangelical Church a Safe Place for Women? Today we're joined by Dr. Andrew Bauman, with his new book Safe Church, based on his research into women's experiences in church. He shares with us why so many women have been harmed in evangelicalism, from things like...