Thank you to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post Often when we point out advice is harmful people respond with "but it's not meant for abusive marriages!" The implication is that those who are abused should realize that this book or video...
How did people fall for Love & Respect? Emerson Eggerichs' 2004 best-selling marriage book is honestly one of the worst books I've ever read. It's badly researched. It messed up stats. It states bizarre opinions as if they are common sense. It gets the Bible...
The Doug Wilson blowup made me realize: We need to speak to our friends about fear. Did you see the CNN interview with Wilson and members of his church last week? Basically, in that interview they supported: Women existing primarily for reproduction (exactly against...
Doug Wilson's daughter Rebekah Merkle peddles patriarchy in Eve in Exile And not just patriarchy, but downright misogyny.I haven't taken a look at her books yet, because we have a system for choosing which books we look at based on Amazon sales rankings, and we...
Let's talk about His Needs, Her Needs! Today, for episode 284, we're joined by Bethany Jantzi and Ngina Otiende, who took one for the team and read Willard Harley's book His Needs, Her Needs. Interestingly, he's updated it a LOT since the Great Sex Rescue was...
Let's look at His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley But first... One of the things we’re passionate about on this blog is making sure the self-help and relationship advice in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed 40,000...
What would it look like to create healthy marriage advice from the ground up? To go into writing a marriage book with no assumptions, just data? To take Jesus at His word that a good tree can’t bear bad fruit, and a bad tree can’t bear good fruit–so where there is...
What if Emerson Eggerichs is asking men to look nothing like Jesus? Let’s ask a question: What’s the goal of the Christian life? Is it to look more and more like Christ? After all, Romans 8:29 tells us that we are to be transformed into the likeness of Jesus. 1 Peter...
I've got some fun stuff for you today! Several quick things I wanted to share, and I thought I'd do it in a post. First, two new books launched this week that are amazing, and that I wanted to direct your attention to. The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood by Philip Payne...
I've been talking about this day for so long, and it's finally here! The Launch Team for She Deserves Better launches--for lack of a better word--today! We're so excited to have anyone who has preordered She Deserves Better join us for a whole lot of behind-the-scenes...
Sheila here! When I was planning last week's podcast looking at how the authors and organizations that we critiqued in The Great Sex Rescue had responded to our book, I started making a list of all the things that they had acccused us of. By the end of that effort, I...
Baptist News covered The Great Sex Rescue--and had a great interview with a pastor! One of our frustrations with publicity for The Great Sex Rescue is that mainstream American Christian outlets (magazines, websites, radio shows, etc.) won't cover it. In other...
If we had had these Great Sex Guides before we got married, there would be no Great Sex Rescue. No To Love, Honor and Vacuum blog. No Bare Marriage podcast. Why? Because we wouldn't have had years of pain that we had to untangle from, so I wouldn't have started...
Can I tell you a story about a book--and about me? As most of you know, on March 15 I have two books launching--The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex, which I wrote with my husband, and a completely revised Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex, which will be 10 years old this...
Can we please stop pretending that Love & Respect empowers women? I get the best stuff from readers who send me links, etc.. And this weekend a male reader, who has been doing some research into domestic violence, sent me his notes after watching a YouTube video...