What if the current Christian sexual ethic isn’t working? One of the big things to come out of our work evaluating the effects of purity culture is that our sexual ethic, the things that we taught teens about sex, is falling short. The way we’re teaching about sex is...
Obligation Sex is the idea that a wife is obligated to have sex when her husband wants to. It’s that simple. It was one of the beliefs that we studied in our survey of 20,000 women for our book The Great Sex Rescue, and we found that when women believed this message...
Sheila here! Keith’s had something gnawing at him for quite a few months, and asked if he could write the series for June where he can build his case. He’s recently read the Danvers Statement, the statement that solidifies the complementarian view of marriage based on...
Sexual confidence can sound almost, well, scary, can't it? Like it's something we can never really live up to. A sexually confident woman is someone who is totally okay with her body; totally orgasmic; totally cool telling her husband what she wants in bed. It's...
Are you doing marriage on hard mode? In a few weeks Keith and I will be taking a two week vacation down east in our RV. We're heading to New Brunswick and Nova Scotia and we're going to do some hiking and I'm going to eat a lot of seafood chowder! Whenever we go out...
Why is it so hard to tell your spouse what you're thinking? What you want? What you need? For the month of August we're going to talk about direct communication--how to be up front with your spouse so you actually know what each other is thinking, rather than having...
How does trauma impact our physical bodies--and our sexual lives? I've been wanting to read The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk for several months now. It's been highly recommended by so many who study and work in the field of sexual trauma, and so, when...
Can you truly believe that your body is your friend? How many of you look in the mirror and feel like weeping? You hate shopping for jeans because nothing ever fits right. You do your best not to think about anything below the neck throughout the day. When you sit...
Keith has made me a better person because I am married to him. First, there's the little things. I notice that when I'm alone for several days, for instance, I tend to cocoon and just do whatever I want, which tends to consist of a lot of time wasters. When he's here,...
If you notice a woman is beautiful, is that a sin? Have you already lusted after her in your heart? If you read many best-selling marriage books, you'd say yes. If you notice a woman, then you're tempted to undress her. That temptation makes you focus on body parts....