Every Friday, around 42,000 people receive our weekly email, linking to all of this week’s posts and podcasts, with a summary, so people can make sure they don’t miss anything they’re interested in. The email is written by Rebecca–not me. And these are often just...
This new research about cheating is fascinating. It was published online just on Tuesday, and I've already incorporated it into the marriage book we're editing right now that's due at the publishers next week! But listen to this:The evidence from this study exposes...
What’s the real reason many women don’t want sex? Whenever we talk about how sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both and that the obligation sex message is toxic, the reply we get is something along these lines: without obligation, obviously, women...
We've talked before about how telling pregnant/postpartum women they should give "hand jobs" to their husbands is just icky and wrong. It was something we felt really strongly about, and we wanted to include in The Great Sex Rescue, but it didn't really fit with any...
What do you do if your spouse isn't interested in sex? Often when I write about how to spice things up in the bedroom, or how to make sex more fun, the emails start to arrive: What do I do if my husband doesn't want to have sex? What do I do if my wife won't read this...
What do you do if your husband doesn't want to make love? That's such a lonely place to be in a marriage--but it's far more common than we might normally think. When we were conducting the research for our book The Great Sex Rescue, we asked 20,000 women who had the...
"The church cannot continue to treat sexual desires as a male-only issue." That's in the conclusion of a big article in Relevant Magazine about The Great Sex Rescue. The three of us--Rebecca, Joanna and me--were all interviewed for the article, and I'm so thrilled...
Telling a woman that the way she stops her husband from watching porn is to have sex with him is toxic. I'm getting ready to pack up our RV and leave the campground. It's been a great few weeks relaxing, knitting, and processing, and I'm grateful. And as we're...
When we first wrote The Great Sex Rescue, and started talking about some of the terrible things that we found in evangelical sex books, we didn't know which themes were going to catch on. I actually thought it was going to be Every Man's Battle calling women methadone...
It's June 9, which means it's International Lovemaking Day! (If some of you don't get that, it's 6/9. I feel like some 13-year-old boy giggling at a sexual innuendo, but there you go). Dan Purcell, the creator of the Intimately Us app, was a guest on the podcast last...
How do our evangelical sex books contribute to women feeling responsible for men's sexual sins? Anxious Bench, a blog on Patheos, has just published one of my guest posts where I talk about how evangelical sex advice kind of peaked in the 1970s with Tim LaHaye and The...
Is the next thing that's going to damage sex in evangelical circles the way that we're treating porn? Now, please understand: I think there is no excuse for watching porn. Porn is the biggest driver of sex trafficking. Even if the porn you're watching is "consensual"...
We've been taking a romp through history looking at views of sex in different periods. We've looked at the Roman world; the medieval period; and the Victorian period. Today we're jumping forward to the 1970s. On the podcast this week we'll be taking a little bit of a...
We are continuing our romp through the ages with sex in Victorian times! Throughout the month of April I've wanted to look at how sex was seen at different periods in history, so that we could figure out how we got where we are now--and so that we could see that our...
What did they believe about sex during the medieval period? What did they do that was weird? And what did they have in common with us? In April we're looking at a sex through the ages series. Sometimes we think of sex as biological, hard-wired,...