What’s the real reason many women don’t want sex? Whenever we talk about how sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both and that the obligation sex message is toxic, the reply we get is something along these lines: without obligation, obviously, women...
When men reveal they objectify women–treat those men accordingly. One of the things that shocks me about evangelical culture is that a man can reveal that he has a really low view of women, or that he objectifies women or blames them for men’s sin, and that doesn’t...
Do men naturally know more about sex than women? On a recent Facebook post, still deeply bothered by that infamous clip from Josh Howerton, I asked this question, “Do we think men "naturally" know more about sex than women do? And that men are equipped to teach...
What do you do if your husband doesn't want to make love? That's such a lonely place to be in a marriage--but it's far more common than we might normally think. When we were conducting the research for our book The Great Sex Rescue, we asked 20,000 women who had the...
"The church cannot continue to treat sexual desires as a male-only issue." That's in the conclusion of a big article in Relevant Magazine about The Great Sex Rescue. The three of us--Rebecca, Joanna and me--were all interviewed for the article, and I'm so thrilled...
Telling a woman that the way she stops her husband from watching porn is to have sex with him is toxic. I'm getting ready to pack up our RV and leave the campground. It's been a great few weeks relaxing, knitting, and processing, and I'm grateful. And as we're...
When we first wrote The Great Sex Rescue, and started talking about some of the terrible things that we found in evangelical sex books, we didn't know which themes were going to catch on. I actually thought it was going to be Every Man's Battle calling women methadone...
It's June 9, which means it's International Lovemaking Day! (If some of you don't get that, it's 6/9. I feel like some 13-year-old boy giggling at a sexual innuendo, but there you go). Dan Purcell, the creator of the Intimately Us app, was a guest on the podcast last...
How do our evangelical sex books contribute to women feeling responsible for men's sexual sins? Anxious Bench, a blog on Patheos, has just published one of my guest posts where I talk about how evangelical sex advice kind of peaked in the 1970s with Tim LaHaye and The...
Is the next thing that's going to damage sex in evangelical circles the way that we're treating porn? Now, please understand: I think there is no excuse for watching porn. Porn is the biggest driver of sex trafficking. Even if the porn you're watching is "consensual"...
We've been taking a romp through history looking at views of sex in different periods. We've looked at the Roman world; the medieval period; and the Victorian period. Today we're jumping forward to the 1970s. On the podcast this week we'll be taking a little bit of a...
We are continuing our romp through the ages with sex in Victorian times! Throughout the month of April I've wanted to look at how sex was seen at different periods in history, so that we could figure out how we got where we are now--and so that we could see that our...
What did they believe about sex during the medieval period? What did they do that was weird? And what did they have in common with us? In April we're looking at a sex through the ages series. Sometimes we think of sex as biological, hard-wired,...
How does understanding Rome's view of sex impact how we should interpret Paul's writings in 1 Corinthians? We're starting a series in the month of April of views of sex throughout history, and I started yesterday looking at 8 weird things about ancient Rome and sex....
How did different eras in time treat sex? I'd like to spend April doing some romps through history looking at how we've seen libido, the role of sex in marriage and culture, women's sexuality, and more. Sometimes we get to assuming that our way of thinking about sex...