Everyday I get emails, comments, and DMs about how our books are changing lives. Before we wrote The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better I had written several other books. But the reaction is so starkly different. I’m hearing over and over again about lives...
Being the higher drive spouse can be really frustrating. You want to connect with your spouse, and you want to have a passionate marriage, but it seems like your spouse doesn't share those same desires. And that can feel like a rejection. This is the last post in the...
How do you initiate sex with your wife without turning her off? We've been working through an obligation sex series for the last few weeks, and one of the big things I've been stressing is that making your spouse feel like they are obligated to have sex has disastrous...
So sex feels terrible. You feel nothing--or maybe even some pain. So how do you look forward to it? That's the question that one of our frequent commenters was asking this week, and I feel for her, because I've been in her situation. She's a great commenter (and some...
Out of the last five times you've made love, how many times have you initiated sex with your husband, and how many has he been the one to initiate? If you say he's initiated all 5, that could be a problem! Now, I know sometimes you just start making love because...
What do you do if your husband accuses you of being boring in bed--or when your husband thinks your sex life is boring? It's our Sex Questions You Can't Ask Your Pastor month, and I wanted to start with this one because it's a great example of how we need to look at a...
When you have questions about sex, or you want to improve your sex life, where's the best place to go? This month, as 31 Days to Great Sex launches again, our series will be on Sex Questions You Can't Ask Your Pastor. I want to tackle a bunch of reader questions that...
Where do you go when you have questions about sex? Likely you come here! In fact, that's likely why most of you ended up here in the first place. You saw something on Pinterest about sex, or you Googled some frantic question late at night and hoped against hope that...
Have you all heard "sex begins in the kitchen"--not meaning that we should do interesting things with whipping cream, but that doing the dishes is a good method to get women to warm up? I hear this a lot--"Guys, if you want her to have sex with you, you had better...
Thanks to Perifit for sponsoring today's post! We talk a lot on the blog about pelvic floor health, vaginismus, and postpartum sexual pain. Rebecca and Joanna (with whom I just finished writing The Great Sex Rescue, due out from Baker books next year!) both have had...
What makes a culture good at sex? Now that things are calmer and the book is in, I want to get back to highlighting a comment or two from the blog in the Friday post each week. (Okay, we had a close call with Rebecca and Connor’s yorkie Wednesday so… maybe not so...
Want some sexy questions to ask your husband to get the party started? You’ve come to the right place! I'm getting ready for a big series in June when we're going to talk about emotional labor and mental load, and we've been talking about some pretty heavy things on...
How do you tell your husband what you want in bed? It's a scary thing, isn't it? You have to be vulnerable and actually share something intensely personal. Here's a letter I received from a reader:My husband and I can talk about almost anything. It's wonderful! But...
How does sex become pressure-free when you really do want it? It's the last Thursday of the month, which means our podcast today is directed at the guys (well, both can listen to all my podcasts, but in this last podcast I always aim more towards the guys, while...
Why should men join the fight against pornography? I'm excited to tell you today. It's Keith (Sheila's husband) on the blog today. This month the theme is about pornography and the terrible effects that it has on marriages and the people in those marriages. In a way...