Women Have Agency: You Don’t Have to Obey Churches or Husbands Who Want to Control You

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 29, 2026 | Abuse, Faith

Yesterday I had a message from a woman being summoned in to defend herself to a toxic elders’ board. She had been going to a very hierarchical, controlling church and had realized it wasn’t healthy and had decided to take her family and go elsewhere. The...

Anger vs. Pity: What Is the Appropriate Emotion to Those Espousing Male Hierarchy?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 27, 2026 | Faith

What if pity is actually a good strategy? And what if pity reveals a bit of God’s heart too? Let me tell you about something that blew my mind yesterday, and I was dreaming about all night. I saw a reel last night where Jameela Jamil was talking about our...

Why Complementarianism Isn’t Actually About Men Really Leading

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 18, 2026 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

I’ve seen so many social media complementarian messages telling women to take the initiative to fix things. One particular one accused women of pride if they saw a problem in the relationship, but then thought: “he’s the leader, go fix it.”...

Why Complementarian Marriages Lose Out on Intimacy

by Keith Gregoire | Mar 9, 2026 | Connecting, Theology of Marriage and Sex

With thanks to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post. My husband Keith is in the middle of a 4-part series about why complementarianism has such bad outcomes. He started last week looking at the analogy that complementarians often use when...

Can Complementarians Please Stop Using the “You’re Equal to Your Boss” Analogy?

by Keith Gregoire | Mar 2, 2026 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

Thank you to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post. My husband Keith and I talk a lot behind the scenes about the theology of complementarianism. It really bothers him that so much of the theology and arguments holding complementarianism up...