Why Complementarianism Depends on Keeping Women in a Bubble

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 26, 2026 | Connecting, Theology of Marriage and Sex

Complementarianism is threatened when women see there are alternatives. I’ve got some quick new findings for you today, and then some birthday reflections I had yesterday (took the day off to celebrate my 56th birthday, mostly by building new garden beds, which...

Why the Patriarchy-Egalitarian Spectrum Is Deceptive: Egalitarianism is the Middle!

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | May 6, 2026 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

I’m often accused of swinging the pendulum to the other extreme. Note: this article appeared on my Substack last week, and I wanted it here to to preserve it on my website! Plus I added some good stuff to it! I remember a commenter writing about how her husband was...

Women Have Agency: You Don’t Have to Obey Churches or Husbands Who Want to Control You

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 29, 2026 | Abuse, Faith

Yesterday I had a message from a woman being summoned in to defend herself to a toxic elders’ board. She had been going to a very hierarchical, controlling church and had realized it wasn’t healthy and had decided to take her family and go elsewhere. The...

Anger vs. Pity: What Is the Appropriate Emotion to Those Espousing Male Hierarchy?

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Apr 27, 2026 | Faith

What if pity is actually a good strategy? And what if pity reveals a bit of God’s heart too? Let me tell you about something that blew my mind yesterday, and I was dreaming about all night. I saw a reel last night where Jameela Jamil was talking about our...

Why Complementarianism Isn’t Actually About Men Really Leading

by Sheila Wray Gregoire | Mar 18, 2026 | Theology of Marriage and Sex

I’ve seen so many social media complementarian messages telling women to take the initiative to fix things. One particular one accused women of pride if they saw a problem in the relationship, but then thought: “he’s the leader, go fix it.”...