Where do you go when you have questions about sex?
Likely you come here! In fact, that’s likely why most of you ended up here in the first place. You saw something on Pinterest about sex, or you Googled some frantic question late at night and hoped against hope that nothing gross would come up.
And here you are!
I’ve been saying for a long time that the church needs to get much better at talking about sex.
After all, we shouldn’t be embarrassed to talk about what God wasn’t embarrassed to create.
I know sex is private, but that doesn’t mean it has to be secret.
I answer a lot of questions about sex on this blog and in my podcast–but I want to give YOU a chance to ask more!
I get so many questions that come in, and I can’t answer them all. And I tend to choose the ones to answer based on what I’m talking about that week or month.
So sometimes people have questions that I never seem to get to–even if they’re important. (Sorry about that! I really do try!).
And I don’t just try to answer questions. I also try to put out resources that can help you build a healthy sex life! Resources that can help you and your spouse learn to talk about this important area of your lives, too, so that it can grow into the passionate, intimate experience God intended.
So I want to give you both–resources AND a chance to ask a question!
After 7 very long months, 31 Days to Great Sex is available to buy again!
I self-published it for years, and it sold really well. But last year I made the decision to sell it to Zondervan so that it could get bigger exposure in bookstores and online platforms, and a new, revamped, and expanded version is coming out on July 14! I changed several of the challenges, and added a more “magazine” feel with lots of articles, tips, and information pieces scattered throughout so that it becomes a wealth of information and encouragement as you build your sex life.
It’s really the cornerstone resource to this blog, and I’m so excited it will be available again. It’s a simple 31-day challenge that you do with your spouse: every night you read 3-4 pages together, and you do what it says! And you’ll learn all the aspects that go into a great sex life, from flirting and affection and talking about your roadblocks to trying new positions and spicing things up!
And I want to give 31 Days to Great Sex to you FREE when you sign up for my webinar, Sex Questions You Can’t Ask Your Pastor.
July 9 (next Thursday) at 9 pm EDT, I’ll be hosting a webinar about 90 minutes long where I’ll try to get through as many questions as I can. When you sign up for that webinar, you can submit a question. I’ll get through a whole bunch, and then I’ll take some live at the webinar, too (you’ll be able to send them anonymously).
I’ll be honest–sometimes I don’t do the super graphic questions on this blog because I do worry about having certain words here or too much technical detail because of how search engines may classify me. And sometimes it’s just awkward to type some of this stuff! But in the webinar, I can be a lot freer. So it will be a ton of fun!
The Q&A period for my Girl Talk event is always the most fun for me. People write in anonymous questions, and I just answer on the spot, without weeding through them first.
The awesome Q&A box set up at a Girl Talk in Macon, Georgia
So it’s unscripted and real, and I think people get to know me even better!
Answering anonymous questions at a Girl Talk in Calgary, Alberta
When you sign up for the webinar, then, you’ll get a chance to ask a question, and a copy of 31 Days to Great Sex sent to you.
But you’ll also get a bunch of other resources!
This webinar costs just $20, and here’s what’s included when you register:
The 31 Days to Great Sex book
This newly revamped favorite includes 31 days of challenges to build a sex life that’s alive, fun, and satisfying. Choose the Kindle or paperback version.
(Value $18)
24 Sexy Dares
If you want to spice up your sex life, try these dares. 8 dares for you to initiate, 8 dares for him to initiate, and 8 dares for you to tackle (!!!) together.
(Value $6.99)
The 75 most commonly asked sex questions report
After the webinar is over, you’ll get this collection of the 75 most commonly asked questions from the webinar emailed to you.
(Value priceless ;))
I’ll give you my 24 Sexy Dares for free, too. PLUS after the webinar I’ll compile the 75 most common questions I was sent into a report, and I’ll send that to you as well!
So you get the webinar, 31 Days to Great Sex, 24 Sexy Dares, and 75 Sex Questions You Can’t Ask Your Pastor, all for $20. Which is basically what the book costs, so everything else is bonus.
It’s kind of like i’m throwing a celebratory party for the launch of 31 Days to Great Sex, but I’m giving you a bunch of the presents!
I’d love to see so many of you there! And, of course, if you can’t be there in person, you will still get access to the recording afterwards. But if you’re there in person, it’s even more fun.
Here are some of the questions that have already come in:
- Is it normal for me to require my husband to touch my clitoris all the way to orgasm–not just as foreplay?
- How does he actually perform oral sex in a way that feels good for me?
- I need to fantasize in order to get aroused and reach orgasm, but I hate it! How do I stop dissociating?
It took me a while to be comfortable talking about sex.
I know it’s awkward.
What got me over the awkwardness?
Recognizing how desperately the Christian community needs an open conversation about sex that doesn’t hurt couples, because a lot of the information we’ve been given is actually quite hurtful. So let’s spread healthy information, even if it means a little bit of awkwardness.
And besides–awkwardness can be awfully funny, too!
This sounds super amazing! I hope that you get a ton of people participating. It’s a great bargain.
Unfortunately I’m not in a position financially to sign up right now. Will you be answering any of those questions during your normal blog posts? I am especially interested in the one on dissociation, as this has increasingly been an issue for me.
I’ll try to discuss it in some posts, too! I’ll likely go into it a lot in the webinar, because many have asked. But I’ll try to put it in some posts as well.
What makes a person an expert in this area? What qualifies someone to give advice?
I would say several things could–education in that particular field. Working day in and day out in that particular field. Doing research in the field. Reviewing all the literature and keeping up with the current literature in the field. Those sorts of things.
When it comes to sex, I think the big thing is that you’ve actually dealt with a large number of people, and you’re familiar with what the literature says. And, if you’re actually counseling particular couples, being a licensed counselor. Most pastors don’t have any of those qualifications, and they shouldn’t need to. We shouldn’t require pastors to be experts in everything, and they can’t be.