Are teen girls responsible for helping teen boys fit in? There's a disturbing trend I've noticed lately where, when a disturbed man goes on a killing spree, the blame is often put on the girls who wouldn't give him the time of day. I wrote a few thoughts about that...
A few years ago, one of our podcasts on the harm of the modesty message caused a ruckus online. And so I asked people, "if you were ever sexually assaulted in church, what were you wearing?" I had so many heartbreaking responses, and I turned them into a post. I...
Nobody wants to pass on sexual shame to their kids! Being able to talk to your kids about sex without giving them the message that they should be ashamed of this part of themselves is such a gift you can give your kids. That's why we created The Whole Story, a course...
It's time to focus on the effects of modesty messages on girls--rather than the effects of girls on boys. For the last few weeks we've been talking about modesty rules for teens, on the podcast, on the blog, and on social media. I often get extremely frustrated...
When we talk about modesty, I often see commenters saying, "But she's dressing like a ho." Whenever the talk comes up about how girls shouldn't be held responsible for boys' and men's thoughts, inevitably someone will say, "What about all the girls coming into church...
Do boys have to fight constantly not to picture girls naked? Yesterday on the Bare Marriage podcast (episode 183) we walked you through some of the problems that we discovered with the modesty messages that were given to girls as teens, especially during the purity...
How does hearing modesty messages as a teen affect you as an adult? We're working through another big chapter in our new book She Deserves Better today! For She Deserves Better, we surveyed 7000+ women to learn how their experiences as teens in church affect them...
In his book Grace-Filled Marriage, Tim Kimmel blames a girl for her own rape.TRIGGER WARNING: Discussions of rape as a teen in the rest of this article.I thought today, for International Women's Day, I'd like to look at what Kimmel said, but especially at all the...
What dating rules work best for teen girls? We're so excited that our brand new book She Deserves Better: Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self and Speaking Up launches next month! Until that launch, we want to take the podcasts to walk you through some...
Adult children can seriously take advantage of their parents–and seriously be moochers. Sheila here! A few weeks ago I started rerunning an important series I wrote six years ago about handling family dynamics as parents age and require care. We're moving the...
We know that parenting is the biggest responsibility we will ever have. But we've been told such different things about the nature of that responsibility. If you grew up in an evangelical church, chances are you were told that a parent's job is to teach them to obey,...
A basic principle in the Old Testament is actually quite a simple one: People of God don't sacrifice children. Read through the prophets, and you'll hear the judgment against nations that sacrifice their kids to Molech, or make children "walk through the fire."...
When my daughter Rebecca was 19 months old, her baby brother died. He was only a month old. We learned when I was about 5 months pregnant about his heart condition, and that things would be very touch and go. We spent the last four months of the pregnancy petrified of...
Christian parenting advice seems to really like discipline and obedience. Rebecca here on the blog today. As I was researching other parenting books and various Christian parenting blogs as I wrote my book, Why I Didn't Rebel, this focus on repentance and obedience...
On almost every measure, church attendance is good for you. Researchers have consistently found that religiosity is positively correlated with better mental health, better health overall, better relationships, and even longevity. BUT--and there's a very big but...