What if there's a Bigger problem in marriage than sex or money? We always hear that the two biggest issues in marriage are sex and money, right? Wrong. One of our findings in our matched pair survey for our new book The Marriage You Want (out March 11!) that blew us...
Is being a good wife in conflict with being a good mom? And what does it look like to prioritize your marriage? Episode 270 of Bare Marriage!
If you're in conflict, you just compromise, right? Well, not necessarily! Here's the thing: compromise only works if you're starting from an even playing field. If one of you is bearing significantly more of the load for the relationship, then it's not about each of...
How do you avoid power struggles with your kids--without just becoming a pushover? I'm sure you've heard it before--"Gentle parenting is just permissive parenting!" Or maybe you've even thought that yourself. Or maybe you've been trying to gentle parent, but you feel...
Do good dads play with their kids, or is that a feminine trait? It's a wild question, right? But that's a large amount of an absolutely bonkers article from Jeremy Pryor where he criticized the kid's show "Bluey" because the dad, Bandit, isn't manly enough. I think...
Some people spend their lives fighting injustice. And we need to listen to their stories! You know what's scarier than Hallowe'en? (And happy Hallowe'en today, everyone! Hope you get some candy!). Men high up in denominations who try to cover up child sexual abuse...
What are the potential pitfalls of the sex talk with your kids? Having the sex talk with your kids can be so stressful! It feels awkward. What do you say? But one of the things we also know here at Bare Marriage, after surveying tens of thousands of people over the...
We're not going to end sexual abuse in the church until we confront its causes. It's not just a matter of getting rid of abusers (they have a habit of popping up again in new churches anyway!). It's about figuring out the underlying contributing factors that make...
What if purity culture really did a number on you? We talk a lot here at Bare Marriage about how harmful much of the purity culture rhetoric was: It increased women's chances of marrying an abuser; increased the chances she'd be sexually harassed or assaulted at...
What happens when churches make up a ridiculous stat--and spread it? Ever heard the stat that when fathers come to Christ first, in 93% of families the wife and kids follow, but when wives come to Christ first, it's only 17%? It's been quoted by J.D. Greear when he...
Christian parenting advice is full of toxic teachings we need to ditch! It's not just marriage and sex where a lot of Christian teachings have gone wrong. It's also with parenting. Instead of teaching parents to connect with their kids and discipline in a way that...
It's time to talk about orgasms! We spend a lot of time on the Bare Marriage podcast and blog talking about what's gone WRONG in evangelical teaching. But we also want to teach how to make things go right. Four years ago, after we had finished our research for The...
Not all men are predators. A lot of men are very good guys. But far too many are predators, and over the last 10 days I've been so angry as I've been reading about the criminal trial in France for the sexual assault of Gisele Pelicot (this is horrid to read about, so...
What if you could have therapy--with just a book? And what if that book could help you understand all the therapy terms you hear, like trauma, Stone Age brain, fight and flight, attachment theory, and more? And what if those exercises could actually help you work...
Ever feel like faith and holiness are out of reach? You want to look like Jesus, but you know you need to pray more. Read your Bible more. Do more spiritual disciplines. Volunteer at church more. It's a long list of things you don't get to, and you know God must be...