Women aren't more emotional and men more logical That's the rhetoric that we often hear, but men are just as emotional as women--they just don't necessarily process those emotions as well. Chapters 7 and 8 in our new book The Marriage You Want are all about how to...
Is it fair to compare romance novels to porn? Quite often in comment sections in our posts about porn, or even in pastor's sermons or various websites for single women, the topic of romance novels = porn will be raised. Men will often say, "sure, you call out guys for...
What if marriage has become the main path to ministry for women? Or really, the main option for women? (Thank you, Brazos Press, for sponsoring this episode of the Bare Marriage podcast! Our sponsors make what we do possible, and we are so excited to be able to...
Why did we all get sucked in to toxic teachings about sex and marriage? Because here's the thing: Unless we understand the why, then even if we leave those toxic teachings behind, it's very likely that we'll get sucked into other forms of toxic teachings about...
The Great Sex Rescue is officially peer reviewed! We used a subset of our dataset for a paper that was just published in the journal Sociology of Religion. So we have done it! We have raised the bar on what counts as research in evangelical marriage and sex advice....
Advent is a time of anticipation, of waiting, of hope. Those weeks leading up to Christmas are supposed to remind us of that in-between period where we know God is going to show up, but He hasn't done it yet. It's the not-quite-yet time. But what if, as we're...
What happens when a charismatic man with no qualifications starts a marriage ministry? You end up with a book that sounds like he wants the best for people--but gives completely unhelpful, and often very harmful, advice. Today Keith and I are taking a deep dive into...
What if, as women, we miss out on wholeness because we don't honour ourselves? What if we've missed out on the rites on passage that actually honour our own stories and let us incorporate those into our lives? Can we honour the people who God made us to be? I really...
I'm tired of being called uptight for not wanting pornified views of sex. The amazing Gisele Pelicot, who is genuinely a hero, has famously said "shame must switch sides." She's the woman whose husband arranged for almost 100 men to rape her while she was unconscious,...
How do you avoid power struggles with your kids--without just becoming a pushover? I'm sure you've heard it before--"Gentle parenting is just permissive parenting!" Or maybe you've even thought that yourself. Or maybe you've been trying to gentle parent, but you feel...
Do good dads play with their kids, or is that a feminine trait? It's a wild question, right? But that's a large amount of an absolutely bonkers article from Jeremy Pryor where he criticized the kid's show "Bluey" because the dad, Bandit, isn't manly enough. I think...
Some people spend their lives fighting injustice. And we need to listen to their stories! You know what's scarier than Hallowe'en? (And happy Hallowe'en today, everyone! Hope you get some candy!). Men high up in denominations who try to cover up child sexual abuse...
What are the potential pitfalls of the sex talk with your kids? Having the sex talk with your kids can be so stressful! It feels awkward. What do you say? But one of the things we also know here at Bare Marriage, after surveying tens of thousands of people over the...
We're not going to end sexual abuse in the church until we confront its causes. It's not just a matter of getting rid of abusers (they have a habit of popping up again in new churches anyway!). It's about figuring out the underlying contributing factors that make...
What if purity culture really did a number on you? We talk a lot here at Bare Marriage about how harmful much of the purity culture rhetoric was: It increased women's chances of marrying an abuser; increased the chances she'd be sexually harassed or assaulted at...