Advent is a time of anticipation, of waiting, of hope. Those weeks leading up to Christmas are supposed to remind us of that in-between period where we know God is going to show up, but He hasn't done it yet. It's the not-quite-yet time. But what if, as we're...
What happens when a charismatic man with no qualifications starts a marriage ministry? You end up with a book that sounds like he wants the best for people--but gives completely unhelpful, and often very harmful, advice. Today Keith and I are taking a deep dive into...
What if, as women, we miss out on wholeness because we don't honour ourselves? What if we've missed out on the rites on passage that actually honour our own stories and let us incorporate those into our lives? Can we honour the people who God made us to be? I really...
It's time to talk about orgasms! We spend a lot of time on the Bare Marriage podcast and blog talking about what's gone WRONG in evangelical teaching. But we also want to teach how to make things go right. Four years ago, after we had finished our research for The...
Not all men are predators. A lot of men are very good guys. But far too many are predators, and over the last 10 days I've been so angry as I've been reading about the criminal trial in France for the sexual assault of Gisele Pelicot (this is horrid to read about, so...
What if you could have therapy--with just a book? And what if that book could help you understand all the therapy terms you hear, like trauma, Stone Age brain, fight and flight, attachment theory, and more? And what if those exercises could actually help you work...
Ever feel like faith and holiness are out of reach? You want to look like Jesus, but you know you need to pray more. Read your Bible more. Do more spiritual disciplines. Volunteer at church more. It's a long list of things you don't get to, and you know God must be...
We're still reeling from our Facebook hack--so we decided to do a Q&A! Last week our Facebook Page was stolen right out from under us. They never hacked my account; they never had my passwords. They got in through our Business Profile, and it seems to be a...
What if evangelical marriage advice actually mimics coercive control? A few months ago I was emailed by Bethany Jantzi when I started talking about The Excellent Wife online. She had just done her dissertation on how The Excellent Wife actually has the same advice and...
There are few books as harmful to women as The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace sells like hotcakes in biblical counseling/ fundamentalist/ homeschooling circles, and even though it seems like a “fringe” book, it’s affecting tens of...
What happens to your marriage when you get dragged into fundamentalism? Tia Levings went to a flagship SBC church. She wasn’t supposed to get sucked into fundamentalism. But Tia ended up being stuck in an abusive marriage, trying to fix things by following advice from...
What if the way we talk about modesty makes it impossible to talk about vanity? When we spend so much time telling girls what they should look like and how they should dress, can we even address vanity? Or when we spend so much time praising women for being "smokin'...
Is evangelicalism filled with propaganda? I'm not saying that Jesus is about propaganda, but rather that evangelicalism, in its current cultural form, is filled with people using the Bible to prop themselves up and keep themselves in power. And seriously--it's gotta...
What happens if church is the place of your greatest hurt? We're in our deconstruction series on the podcast, looking at different people's stories of deconstruction, and trying to honor all of them. What I really want to do is have people hear WHY people...
What's it like when your family starts out normal, but grows fundamentalist? Today on the podcast we're interviewing Cait West, the author of just a beautiful memoir, Rift. She talks about what it's like to grow up in a Christian patriarchal family, where her father...