What’s the real reason many women don’t want sex? Whenever we talk about how sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both and that the obligation sex message is toxic, the reply we get is something along these lines: without obligation, obviously, women...
When men reveal they objectify women–treat those men accordingly. One of the things that shocks me about evangelical culture is that a man can reveal that he has a really low view of women, or that he objectifies women or blames them for men’s sin, and that doesn’t...
Do men naturally know more about sex than women? On a recent Facebook post, still deeply bothered by that infamous clip from Josh Howerton, I asked this question, “Do we think men "naturally" know more about sex than women do? And that men are equipped to teach...
What do you do when you're told that it's your Christian duty to act like porn for your husband? Many of you have really enjoyed hearing Andrew Bauman on the Bare Marriage podcast. He's the co-founder and co-director of the Christian Counseling Center for Sexual...
If you've been constantly betrayed in your marriage, how can you ever have sexual confidence again? We're in a sexual confidence series for October and November, where we've been talking about what sexual confidence looks like--and how to develop it. I was going to...
So you all have such wonderful wisdom that I thought I'd ask you today for some ideas! First off, a woman wrote me with a question that I'd never considered before. You know how some people throw "Period Parties" for their daughters when they get their first periods...
One of the reasons women often struggle with sexual confidence is that we think that sex is something that we give to men. We think that sex is primarily a male need (after all, in Love & Respect, Emerson Eggerichs said, "If your husband is typical, he has a need...
Last week we were talking about how neuroscience does NOT say that men and women are different species when it comes to sex. Rebecca and Connor talked on the Bare Marriage podcast last week about how we've been told by many evangelical authors that neuroscience shows...
How do you know if a book is using junk science to prove a point? I thought I'd combine last week's podcast on a DIY test to see if Christian books are harmful or helpful and this week's podcast on the problems with the way that far too many Christian resources misuse...
Are you making sex harder than it needs to be in your marriage? We're in the middle of our doing marriage on hard mode series, and today we're talking about doing sex on hard mode! (and, yes, I know that's a double entendre). We've got a lighthearted look via...
We've talked before about how telling pregnant/postpartum women they should give "hand jobs" to their husbands is just icky and wrong. It was something we felt really strongly about, and we wanted to include in The Great Sex Rescue, but it didn't really fit with any...
What do you do if your spouse isn't interested in sex? Often when I write about how to spice things up in the bedroom, or how to make sex more fun, the emails start to arrive: What do I do if my husband doesn't want to have sex? What do I do if my wife won't read this...
What do you do if your husband doesn't want to make love? That's such a lonely place to be in a marriage--but it's far more common than we might normally think. When we were conducting the research for our book The Great Sex Rescue, we asked 20,000 women who had the...
"The church cannot continue to treat sexual desires as a male-only issue." That's in the conclusion of a big article in Relevant Magazine about The Great Sex Rescue. The three of us--Rebecca, Joanna and me--were all interviewed for the article, and I'm so thrilled...
Telling a woman that the way she stops her husband from watching porn is to have sex with him is toxic. I'm getting ready to pack up our RV and leave the campground. It's been a great few weeks relaxing, knitting, and processing, and I'm grateful. And as we're...