How do you initiate sex with your wife without turning her off? We've been working through an obligation sex series for the last few weeks, and one of the big things I've been stressing is that making your spouse feel like they are obligated to have sex has disastrous...
Sex matters in marriage. When sex is mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, sex makes you feel connected. It minimizes minor tensions and makes you laugh. It helps you sleep and makes you feel more relaxed. And it contributes significantly to marital...
Obligation sex can wreak havoc on us. For last month we’ve been doing a deep dive into obligation sex, looking at the main problems with obligation sex, how it affects women’s bodies, why you don’t need to consent to being used, and more. But as we’re nearing the end...
If you want sex more often than your spouse, are you doomed to have a disappointing sex life? It's September, and in Ontario, where I live, the kids are back to school today (I know they've been back for a month where some of you all live, and in Australia & NZ, I...
Are you somebody who would actually love to have period sex? I've been writing about periods all month, and last week we looked at period sex, mostly from the perspective that a woman should not feel obligated to give sexual favors then if she doesn't want to. But...
Do you have sex during your period? Or is sex during your period off of the table? We're in the middle of our series on periods! We've talked about the shame that some of us felt as teens; we've talked about how men can be more empathetic and aware of periods; and...
Can men understand sex from a woman's perspective? Or is there such a thing as a "man's perspective" and a "woman's perspective?" It's Keith (Sheila's husband) here again, for our monthly men’s corner! Every month, I try to write a post with some of my thoughts about...
If you're faking orgasm or fantasizing while you make love, should you confess to your husband? Wow. That's a tough one! We're getting to the end of our sex questions series, and I wanted to tackle one that I haven't talked about in a few years. A woman asks:Should I...
When people write in with sex problems, one of the hardest things is that the problem is often not just one thing. It would be wonderful if, when people have problems with sex, it were one simple thing, like: "Our relationship is great and everything is wonderful but...
Today, the updated 31 Days to Great Sex launches again! For years, I published it myself, and it sold wonderfully. But I decided that I wanted it to go bigger than just my blog, so I sold it to Zondervan, and then updated it, changed some of the challenges based on...
So sex feels terrible. You feel nothing--or maybe even some pain. So how do you look forward to it? That's the question that one of our frequent commenters was asking this week, and I feel for her, because I've been in her situation. She's a great commenter (and some...
Out of the last five times you've made love, how many times have you initiated sex with your husband, and how many has he been the one to initiate? If you say he's initiated all 5, that could be a problem! Now, I know sometimes you just start making love because...
What do you do if your husband accuses you of being boring in bed--or when your husband thinks your sex life is boring? It's our Sex Questions You Can't Ask Your Pastor month, and I wanted to start with this one because it's a great example of how we need to look at a...
When you have questions about sex, or you want to improve your sex life, where's the best place to go? This month, as 31 Days to Great Sex launches again, our series will be on Sex Questions You Can't Ask Your Pastor. I want to tackle a bunch of reader questions that...
Where do you go when you have questions about sex? Likely you come here! In fact, that's likely why most of you ended up here in the first place. You saw something on Pinterest about sex, or you Googled some frantic question late at night and hoped against hope that...