I have met the most incredible, insightful people over the last few years. For ten years, my circle online tended to be the typical Christian authors. I was friends with many of them. I blogged with people who supported their ministries. I was right in the middle of...
Please hear me on this: Not all men have lust problems. In fact, while it may be common, it is not what you'd call "normal", where we should just expect it to happen, and if guys don't have lust problems, they're unusual unicorns. Lust is saying:What Lust Says: "when...
Stinky and Kissing don't go together. A while ago I started a series on kissing, and got sidetracked by some huge news stories in evangelicalism (like the terrible article up at The Gospel Coalition, or Jonathan Pokluda objectifying women in a sermon). I have a few...
If we want sex to be awesome, then we need to be able to feel like sex is for us too. We need to feel like we matter. Sex is supposed to be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and mutuality and intimacy means that you are both coming to the bedroom willingly,...
It's the podcast where we redefine sex--and talk about how it's about more than the penis! Today on the podcast I'm introducing the series we've been going through this month on the blog--how to recover when one of you, or both of you, have dug your sex life into a...
I was not kind to my body yesterday, and I am feeling it! When people used to complain about food insensitivities, I never really understood until it started happening to me. I've been having some real issues with gluten lately, and I've largely gone off of bread. But...
Is there hope for recovery for unwanted sexual behaviors, fantasies, or compulsions? I've been wanting to do this podcast for ages! I love Jay Stringer's book Unwanted, and we've connected behind the scenes a bit over the last few months, talking about our respective...
Sex must be mutual, about both people’s pleasure. What if he insists on sex that doesn’t bring her pleasure, and doesn’t try to help her reach orgasm?
Safety is a prerequisite to intimacy in a marriage. If she feels as if she has to earn safety sexually, with her body, she’ll never have real intimacy.
When your sex life has evaporated, how do you recover? Here’s a 4-point plan to sexual recovery, emphasizing redefining sex and safety.
If we don't put sex in its proper place, sex will become a drain on the relationship, rather than something that makes you feel closer. We're working this month on how to dig out of the pit you're in with your sex life, because many people have such deep and serious...
How do you dig out of a pit you’ve dug for your sex life in marriage? A 4 point plan to rebuild sex, starting with reframing sex & making everyone feel safe.
What if the key to a great sex life was connection, not acrobatics? How the best sexual fulfillment is from intimacy not adventurousness.
How do women’s hormone levels affect libido throughout the month? What role does contraception and menopause have in libido? Let’s look!
How many of us have heard a grown man grumble about what a teenager is wearing, saying “She knows what she’s doing”? Rebecca here on the blog, bringing you another dose of data from new research we haven’t reviewed on the blog yet! This one is super interesting, and...