What if a guy is struggling with lust, but honestly wants to do better? But at the same time, he finds that when he’s out in public, he DOES immediately focus on women’s body parts or imagine them naked. He doesn’t want to. He’s in counseling. He’s trying to stop it....
When men reveal they objectify women–treat those men accordingly. One of the things that shocks me about evangelical culture is that a man can reveal that he has a really low view of women, or that he objectifies women or blames them for men’s sin, and that doesn’t...
Every Young Man's Battle is a dangerous book. Part of the Every Man's Battle series, it is addressed to teenage boys to help them battle lust and pornography. I hear about Christian schools and youth groups that are still going through it with 13, 14, or 15-year-old...
There's a very line between way TMI and just sharing educational information. And in today's Start Your Engines Podcast (we like to take the last Thursday of every month and dedicate it to a podcast that men would be interested in as well), we try to show how men and...
What do you do when you're told that it's your Christian duty to act like porn for your husband? Many of you have really enjoyed hearing Andrew Bauman on the Bare Marriage podcast. He's the co-founder and co-director of the Christian Counseling Center for Sexual...
If you've been constantly betrayed in your marriage, how can you ever have sexual confidence again? We're in a sexual confidence series for October and November, where we've been talking about what sexual confidence looks like--and how to develop it. I was going to...
Are you making sex harder than it needs to be in your marriage? We're in the middle of our doing marriage on hard mode series, and today we're talking about doing sex on hard mode! (and, yes, I know that's a double entendre). We've got a lighthearted look via...
Telling a woman that the way she stops her husband from watching porn is to have sex with him is toxic. I'm getting ready to pack up our RV and leave the campground. It's been a great few weeks relaxing, knitting, and processing, and I'm grateful. And as we're...
Is the next thing that's going to damage sex in evangelical circles the way that we're treating porn? Now, please understand: I think there is no excuse for watching porn. Porn is the biggest driver of sex trafficking. Even if the porn you're watching is "consensual"...
The shootings in Atlanta this week are all too tragic--but I believe they are also a logical extension to how evangelicalism too often talks about sex, porn, and women. First, before I delve into this too much, these shootings were racially motivated. He killed mostly...
There are times when not having sex is a good idea. That should not be a revolutionary thing to say, but I remember hearing about a big marriage conference on one of those cruises where a panel of experts was answering questions. One question from the audience came...
Quitting porn needs to be something that changes you--not just something that allows you to avoid what you find really enticing. Last week on the podcast we were talking about how women are not methadone for their husbands' sin addictions. They can't just have sex...
You cannot defeat porn by becoming methadone for your husband's porn addiction. And yet that's exactly what Every Man's Battle tells women to do!"Your wife can be a methadone-like fix when your temperature is rising.” "Once he tells you he's going cold turkey, be like...
For twenty years now Christians have been inundated with news about "every man's battle" and how every man struggles with lust. But what if our approach is part of the problem? I believe that because we talk about how all men struggle with lust, we're creating the...
When we think of porn, we tend to think "sin". (It's Sheila introducing this post, but I'm going to put Rebecca as the author since most of these are her words below!) When it comes to porn, what if there's more going on than just "sin"? What if an action can be...