Every Young Man’s Battle is the only book I ever reviewed that made me weep. Perhaps it’s because I read it after I had already read a whole bunch of books aimed at teen girls, and it was just the straw that broke the camel’s back. But I think there was a whole other...
Please hear me on this: Not all men have lust problems. In fact, while it may be common, it is not what you'd call "normal", where we should just expect it to happen, and if guys don't have lust problems, they're unusual unicorns. Lust is saying:What Lust Says: "when...
I’ve had some interesting discussions about how I’m shaming men with sex addictions by calling out the language Every Man’s Battle uses about women. This week we published our one sheet downloadwith the summary of issues with Every Man’s Battle (we also have one for...
Are you making sex harder than it needs to be in your marriage? We're in the middle of our doing marriage on hard mode series, and today we're talking about doing sex on hard mode! (and, yes, I know that's a double entendre). We've got a lighthearted look via...
Telling a woman that the way she stops her husband from watching porn is to have sex with him is toxic. I'm getting ready to pack up our RV and leave the campground. It's been a great few weeks relaxing, knitting, and processing, and I'm grateful. And as we're...
Is the next thing that's going to damage sex in evangelical circles the way that we're treating porn? Now, please understand: I think there is no excuse for watching porn. Porn is the biggest driver of sex trafficking. Even if the porn you're watching is "consensual"...
The shootings in Atlanta this week are all too tragic--but I believe they are also a logical extension to how evangelicalism too often talks about sex, porn, and women. First, before I delve into this too much, these shootings were racially motivated. He killed mostly...
There are times when not having sex is a good idea. That should not be a revolutionary thing to say, but I remember hearing about a big marriage conference on one of those cruises where a panel of experts was answering questions. One question from the audience came...
Quitting porn needs to be something that changes you--not just something that allows you to avoid what you find really enticing. Last week on the podcast we were talking about how women are not methadone for their husbands' sin addictions. They can't just have sex...
You cannot defeat porn by becoming methadone for your husband's porn addiction. And yet that's exactly what Every Man's Battle tells women to do!"Your wife can be a methadone-like fix when your temperature is rising.” "Once he tells you he's going cold turkey, be like...
For twenty years now Christians have been inundated with news about "every man's battle" and how every man struggles with lust. But what if our approach is part of the problem? I believe that because we talk about how all men struggle with lust, we're creating the...
When we think of porn, we tend to think "sin". (It's Sheila introducing this post, but I'm going to put Rebecca as the author since most of these are her words below!) When it comes to porn, what if there's more going on than just "sin"? What if an action can be...
How does sex become pressure-free when you really do want it? It's the last Thursday of the month, which means our podcast today is directed at the guys (well, both can listen to all my podcasts, but in this last podcast I always aim more towards the guys, while...
Why should men join the fight against pornography? I'm excited to tell you today. It's Keith (Sheila's husband) on the blog today. This month the theme is about pornography and the terrible effects that it has on marriages and the people in those marriages. In a way...
What's happening with the next generation when it comes to pornography? How will porn use affect them, and their marriages? We're in the last Monday in our series about porn in April. We looked at the effects of porn; at 4 things you should do if your spouse uses...